Nov 07 2008
Getting Your DICK Pointed in the Right Direction
What is beauty? What is attractiveness? What are YOU attracted to? What is the subset of girls in your area that you would like to get on fucking terms with?
Silly questions that you already know the answer to? Let me challenge you on that with a personal example.
7th grade: In science class was a girl named “P.” I did not find P attractive. She honestly looked like 35 year old trailer trash even though she was actually our age. At least she had that vibe somehow.
However, my best friend had a crush on her, and was always talking about how hot she was. At first I disagreed, but eventually I went along with it. Somehow I started to see her as desirable, and when I saw her at school I caught myself looking at her or shying away when our eyes met.
10th grade: I noticed another girl, “M”, had quite an unusual face and air about her. I was most definitely not attracted to her, but she kept entering my field of view in certain classes.
Being bored and thoughtful as I often was back then, I thought, “Here is a girl I do not find attractive. I feel nothing for her. I wonder what type of guy would? What would happen if I PRETENDED to be attracted to her, just in my own mind? Just for fun.”
So I tried it. Whenever I saw her I would look at her in the same way I used to look at other girls I had a crush on. It didn’t take but two weeks before I started having real fantasies about her, and could feel the crush coming on. Not as strong as a real one, but definitely getting there.
I never forgot those lessons: who you like can be influenced by your friends or just by pretending. I was never much for mass media influence, but I can imagine how deeply it affects what guys prefer.
Then of course, there’s make-up. And clothes. Especially in Japan this becomes huge for the majority of guys.
At first, I noticed and consciously filtered it out. If any girl’s makeup was too thick to tell if she was ACTUALLY hot underneath, I would simply refuse to judge how hot she was. If she had hot sassy fashion, fake eyelashes, hair extensions, etc. I would try to weed all those out of the picture and imagine how she would look with minimal make-up and normal clothes or nude.
I decided that, sure, an ugly girl with well-done make-up, cleavage and a short skirt DID have some additional value over a plain old ugly girl when I was really horny. But that’s the kind of thing that the moment you cum you immediately forget about and suddenly the blinders come off and you just see a plain Jane in your bed. As a guy I once knew said, “One time I got to the point where I didn’t even wanna look at the girl after sex. That was when I knew I went too far [toward just looking to girls purely to satisfy my horniness].” It’s just not the type of girl that makes ME proud to be a man (note: she could make *another* man proud, though, because one man’s 3 is sometimes another man’s 9).
What I want are a girls who are truly cute and hot, who’s face even with light or no make-up will be almost impossible for me to look at for more than a few seconds due to what seems a physically impossible level of cuteness. Japanese girls like this exist, and I’ve even laid a fair number of them. Some of them would be 4s to other guys. Some would be 10s. Some of the girls I thought were 6s would be 10s to most guys.
Obviously, beauty is subjective, but in all I said above lies a much more important secret for your success:
“You can’t hit a target if you don’t know what you’re aiming at.”
A friend of mine who does daily pickup and has good success remarked to me, “I can tell if a girl will be hot just by looking at her from behind!” Because he goes for a certain type that is very consistent with their fashion and makeup. He has also said, “Give me any 6 and I’ll turn her into a 9 with the right make-up and clothes.” This states the obvious: it’s the makeup and clothes he finds hot, not so much the chicks themselves.
And he has a point. Such girls are much more highly sought after, even in Japan. It may all be makeup techniques and she may not *actually* be “easy” despite the sexy clothes, but I’ll be damned if it doesn’t make other guys jealous to walk around with a girl like that on your arm!
I asked at the beginning of this article, “What kinds of girls are you attracted to?” and I bet you thought you knew exactly. How do you feel now? If you picture an attractive woman (to YOU!), does she have sexy fashion and skilled makeup, etc.? Does making other guys jealous come into the picture? Either it does or it doesn’t. But take stock of your self, your REAL desires. What do you REALLY want?
–>As for heavy makeup and hot clothes, there’s nothing inherently WRONG with actually deciding that they are fundamentally important to what makes you attracted to some girl, as long as you’re OK that one day you will see her in sweats with no makeup and she might look like a troll to you. But seriously, that is fine if that’s where you place the value, if that’s where you stand, if that’s really what turns you on and makes you feel the whole endeavour is worth it. Now you know what you’re aiming for, and you can take steps to get it. (In that case, most of this article has probably been a waste of your time. Sorry, it couldn’t be helped.)
But note carefully now, very carefully, if those things are REALLY important to you. Are they? With me, for instance, I DO appreciate the make-up and style and all that, but when I examime my feelings closely I can see that a large part of that is just that I know it would make other guys jealous. And that, my friends, is fucked. It is the wrong reason, the wrong motivation in a game where having the wrong motivation will destroy your success.
Here’s a helpful question to ask yourself:
“If it were just me and her on a deserted island, how happy would I be? How would I ‘rate’ her?”
In other words, would you be more happy with a girl who had more real, natural beauty and cuteness, or a girl who had less but was better with makeup and had sexier clothes (to control for amount of skin revealed, say they both had miniskirts of the same length but naturally cute one was Uniqlo and the other one was Swordfish or some hot brand).
I know some of you are thinking, “Now why is Amanojack having me thinking about this silly topic so deeply? It’s obviously I want what I want…get on with telling me how to get it already!” Patience. This IS telling you how to get it. This is about removing a fundamental psychological bias you most likely have to some degree, that can seriously hold you back.
I can respect guys who really care about the make-up and clothes, as that is a personal choice.
What I simply can’t condone is wanting a particular girl for the clout or respect you think it will give you with other guys. This is utter POISON for your game! I enjoin you in the strongest possible terms to root out, to EXTIRPATE all vestiges of this mind virus from your whole consciousness about women and pickup.
You will find this is a very deep-rooted, even instinctual tendency, constantly being reinforced by society. So why am I telling you to get rid of it? Rest assured, once you’ve cleared this toxic sludge out of your mind you’ll be much closer to getting a steady stream of hot women that will - ironically now precisely when you’re NOT hoping to impress anyone - knock the socks off most other guys. Even after you’re successful you have to watch out for this trap as it’s ever-present, tempting you all along. You must stop caring about what others think, in order to really get where you would impress them - and still not care.
I even fell for it once. At first I tried to hide from all the other guys (and girls) in my gaijin house. Sure, they heard the nightly screams of pleasure through the thin wooden walls, but I never talked about it and I deliberately avoided making friends there. But over the years I started to loosen this policy, and I gradually started - first just as a tiny amusement - to enjoy the new-found respect of men (and surprise offers from a few women) as the “resident stud.”
It was a slippery slope, and before I knew it that became a large part of my motivation. I remember the night I was too embarrassed to bring home a rather plain girl who happened to have an amazing ass that I was horny for and was definitely up for immediate action. I was standing outside the entrance pathetically calculating the effect it would have on my rep! How insidious that was, because at the time I hadn’t even noticed I even cared about my rep or anything anyone else thought.
I also remember showing off an amazingly hot girl I had, even though that inevitably resulted in trouble down the line and upset the balance of some friendships I had with other guys who were content with their 7s. I didn’t want that. I cared more about the friendships, yet I got tempted into making them jealous, even though all I really did was not to hide her. To bring her along to a party she wanted to go to with me anyway. No matter, the intent, the anticipation, the enjoyment of the look on my friends’ faces - that was all there, and it damaged my performance in hard-to-notice ways as it snowballed over the next two years.
But I tell you, the very WEEK I realized this and got back to not caring what anyone else thinks, I burst back into a golden age! In that very week I got two of the hottest girls I’ve ever gotten, and even my friends all agree they are extremely hot (even though we often disagree). My point here is that I did NOT lower my standards of the girls I was going after or actually getting (actually increased ‘em, from my POV!), I just went deep into my mind and realized my motivations were false, they were not REALLY what I was after, and I fixed them. I reoriented what I was aiming for, and with a REAL target lo and behold I immediately started to hit bullseyes.
So I ask you once again, “What are you really after? Why?” I know being pressed with a mundane question like that harks back to boring homework assignments that you dreaded back in school. Except here it really will make a difference for you to identify this for yourself and reorient all your energies toward this. Don’t answer now, take time to ponder this out on a walk or something. You may find you were wasting a lot of emotional energy and getting a lot of disappointment from not hitting a target you hadn’t even been aiming at!
Now, if you go for girls for the reasons I do, you can walk around and whenever you see a hot garter and blond hair extensions with a Cecil McBee bag you will logically realize, “There is no reason at all to expect that girl’s face to be hotter than, say, that girl over there with plainer clothes [of the same age group].” You’ll be cured of that nagging feeling when you see a fashionista, that it’s something you can’t get - when in fact it may well be true - you really do have a lower chance of getting her. But she is not necessarily hot, nor is she even especially likely to be hot, any more than the next healthy girl of the same age. She could be a troll with make-up and hide it really well (seriously, you’d be amazed), so what does it matter?
There are plenty of ugly girls that would be next to impossible for you to score with! Does that make them better?! Go for what YOU TRULY WANT…FOR YOURSELF!! On that uncharted desert isle…do you choose ultra-hot pig-troll with lipstick or Miss Unassuming Ultra-Cutie? If you like ultra-hot pig-trolls, that’s not a problem (and sorry for the word choice :)), but note it COULD be harder for you to get them - since most other guys are under the same illusions. If, on the other hand, you appreciate natural beauty and real raw CUTEacular-ness you’re in luck - things just got a lot easier.
And lest you think there are actually more truly hot women in the done-up category because “they are confident so that makes them dress hot,” that is simply not true. The most done-up girls often do have nice bodies (actually so do a very large percentage of J-girls anyway), but I don’t think the overall natural beauty is much more than average for the age group. Remember it’s a lifestyle thing. If the girls are rocker or visual-kei or Spitz-loving types they will never dress that way, regardless of their raw hotness. And remember, any 6 can be made into a 9 with the right make-up and clothes (for a guy who fundamentally cares about such things). With the other girls you can see clearly what you’re getting and your natural sexual state can come through.
And that’s it, gentlemen! That’s why many of you have such a hard time applying sexual state, because you aren’t horny for the girls you’re chasing!! There’s probably nothing wrong with your sexuality, it’s just that you’ve artificially convinced yourself that you’re after a certain subset of the female population, and it just happens to be a DIFFERENT subset than the one that turns you on the most, and not just for sexy skin but for cuteness, beauty, and all the aesthetics that YOU find pleasing. For the guys that need to make this change, this could be the biggest revelation for you of all.
