J-chick’s Super Last-Minute-Resistance Blasted with Porno!
Factors
leading to success:
-initial interest because she wanted to learn English
-selection of good venue to take her to
-touching her strongly on the arm immediately upon meeting at the station
-not letting her steal the frame (not making it an "English lesson")
-demonstrating personality and passion through stories
-getting her to elicit the racy/romantic parts of the story from me, rather
than pushing them on her
-overcoming last-minute-resistance
to sex by persisting relentlessly with a wide variety of methods
So I met this hairstylist girl with really big cute eyes (kinda like an anime
girl) at one of those international parties in Shibuya. As is pretty common in
At the party I just got her number and email uneventfully and we set up the next
meet by email with no problem, with her saying "please teach me
English!" I never directly replied to that line, because I didn’t want to
box myself into the role of her English teacher. I also didn’t refuse to teach
her English, because that might’ve lowered the chances of her meeting me since
that was her motivation for meeting me at that time. Ignoring rather than
refusing is a common and powerful technique. In
We met at the station and I immediately touched her on the arm strongly when I
greeted her, very casually and relaxedly, without looking at my hand,
maintaining solid and friendly eye contact. This is something I always do when
I meet a chick for an arranged meeting, because it establishes that "that's
just the kind of person I am" (so all touching afterward is congruent) and
"I am a sexual being" (Japanese guys never do this, but it’s accepted
because you are foreign). I took her to my "surefire lay"
restaurant/bar near my place (if you don't have a venue like this, find one!)
and spoke in easy English at first to satisfy her desire to learn.
We made small talk a bit while she relaxed and got used to my English voice,
because I was going to need her to understand the stories I was about to start
into.
I never launch into a story myself; I always wait until they ask me one of the
key questions that Japanese people invariably ask, and get them to elicit my
stories in the course of trying to get that key question answered. Here's how
it works in practice:
J-chick:
So, why did you come to
Amanojack: Well, it all started when I was in high school, at the junior prom.
(This is bait: Japanese girls have this super-romantic image of high school
proms, and press me to talk about it more every time I mention it.)
I go into my favorite attraction/romance/personality/passion story, which
produces in her that
wide-eyed look like how a dog looks at you when you’re holding its food bowl.
This happens 90% of the time I take a girl to this venue and tell the exact
same story to every chick, so nothing interesting is happening so far. She’s
just feeling this unexpected attraction toward me like I anticipated, and I read
the situation well enough to be able to see the first chance I have to go for
the kiss. The signs I see are: she holds eye contact for longer, when I
pronounce “W” sounds she glances down at my lips, she doesn’t pull away when I
get close, and she reciprocates my casual touching.
So I test
for the kiss using the earlobe by talking close to her ear and letting my lips
brush against it as I talk (while I’m massaging her shoulders from behind),
modulating my voice deeper and slower. She doesn't move away at this point so I
know it’s time for the kiss. Again, this is all routine, nothing out of the ordinary.
After a few short French kisses in the bar, I say "let's go" and
start walking to take her home. This part is routine and not worth going into
because it's the same as most other lays I've had in
Where it gets interesting: I get her home and we're making out, but she's
putting up MASSIVE resistance to the clothes coming off! OK, this is my
specialty - time to pull out all the tools in the Amanojack last-minute-resistance
(LMR: resistance put up by a chick who is horny for you but having sex with you
is against her better judgment) busting toolbox!
LMR breaker 1: POWER UP!! Already making out, so just make out more, up the
momentum, up the energy, up the passion, focus more on kissing her well, change
touching escalation patterns,
and see how far you get. Really focus on what is so hot about her so you can
really get into it like a wild animal swept away by passion. This leads me to
the tits, and I have a rule: if I can lick BOTH nipples the lay is in the bag.
But this time I only got to lick ONE nipple before she stopped me. Uh-oh, time
for...
LMR breaker 2: THE BACKDOOR PATH!! Strangely enough, in
LMR breaker 3: THE EARLOBE BLITZ!! Remember this amazing and very useful fact:
earlobe stimulation can temporarily but completely remove a woman's will to
resist for a few seconds. If you can stimulate her earlobe to the point where
she gets shivers in her body, you can suddenly touch her ANYWHERE and she won't
resist. It's a power point like no other...except the clitoris! This is
Amanojack's earlobe-clit blitz technique, perfected over several years.
You open the resistance window for a few seconds at a time, getting your hand
near her pussy the first time, then pulling your hand away as the window
closes. Reopen the window a few seconds later with more ear stimulation, put
your hand on her panties and rub her pussy through them (or come in through the
“backdoor”). Next time the window opens slide your hand in and rub directly.
Next two windows rub the clit directly. Once you have a few seconds of good
stimulation of the clit, it is usually game over (depends on your skill there,
too, so practice your hand skills to perfection on any girls you get the chance
with - this alone will increase your success rate!).
This girl is about to explode, but something was keeping her from fucking, even
though she was juicing herself and my bed like crazy. Some memory from the
past, not wanting to look like a slut, hoping for a romantic relationship
instead of a sexual one, or just trying to keep to her word that she wouldn't
fuck tonight. She knows she is too horny for her own good, as I found out
later, and she is used to using her willpower to keep stuff from happening. Her
agenda and my agenda collided, and her agenda was winning in spite of the fact
that she was really horny right then.
This was just about the strongest LMR I'd ever seen! She was really horny, but
she could get even more horny. There is a point of horniness where resistance
becomes simply out of the question because she just wants it so badly. This
fact is one of the pillars of seduction. The question is how to tap into her
arousal response and get her to melt into a pool of horniness. Time for...
LMR breaker 4: WRESTLING!! A pattern of resistance was building up, making the
mood too serious and interfering with her horniness response. I realized that I
wasn't going to make anymore progress until that resistance pattern was broken.
It was time to try something totally different.
I picked her up and started spinning her around and pretending to attack her
like a play monster and bite her neck in between making out and playfully rough-handling
her. She liked this a lot, and the playful mood returned. The resistance
pattern was broken. I used the monster role-playing as an excuse to strip some
clothes off her while growling like a wolf in fun. Finally we were down to just
underwear, but then she knew the danger was greater and she put up even more
resistance!! All these LMR breakers are things that usually work, but this time
didn't. She knew her own horniness response too well and was determined not to
give into temptation. So near, yet so far... But I was more determined to tempt
her until she just decided, “Well why not, just this once…..” (but it’s not
really “just this once” because once the precedent has been set and she has an
easy way to vent her sexual desires, it usually becomes a regular thing if you
want it to be).
LMR breaker 5: ROLE REVERSAL!! One thing that can often work is to get the
chick to pleasure you. She may have an objection to you touching her pussy, but
sometimes sucking the dick is OK with her. But once she's done that you're
naturally a step closer to sex. J-chicks are of course always curious to see
what a gaijin cock looks like, comment that it's big, touch it to see how hard
it is, etc. I deliberately pretended to enjoy her touching it more than I actually
did, in order to encourage her. It worked, and she started lightly rubbing it
while we made out. It gave me more leeway to touch her, and I finally got down
to licking the pussy and some slight fingering, which she really liked. I'm
thinking, "Aha! This girl likes insertion more than clit!" But just
then she realized if she didn't stop me we're gonna definitely end up fucking,
and she's still dead set on not fucking tonight.
LMR breaker 6: TAKE AWAY --> VERBAL SEDUCTION!! So I finally did the old
take away, saying I was hungry and started eating some chocolates I had with
her. She relaxed a bit, and I start talking about how the chocolate tastes so
good mixed with her pussy juices that were still on my fingers, now facing slightly
away from her, not touching her at all. Her mouth opens a bit, and I get the
idea to start painting images of a sexual fantasy in her mind. I ask if she has
a fantasy, and she doesn't tell me. She says she wants romance, so I say,
"Where is romantic?" She says the beach, so I say something like,
"You mean like when you are lying on your back on the beach, feeling the
warm sand on your skin, listening to the rhythm of the waves?" I start
modulating my voice like I did before to get the wide-eyed captivated look like
she gave me at the restaurant. I describe the physical sensations of being on
the beach in a tropical paradise. And then I mention "the man" who
happens to be there and how nice it feels as his body rubs up against hers,
sliding up and down on her in the same rhythm as the waves as they slide up and
down the shore. Yes, I’m milking it for all it's worth, adding as much sensual
and quasi-sexual content as I can. You’d think the girl would go, “Hey, what
are you trying here,” but once they are captivated by the story they just can't
stop listening. You can push on with impunity. By the way, it’s not necessary
to describe actual sex, because the girl will fill in the blanks in her
imagination better than you ever could with your own words. Just hint at it, or
describe the kissing in detail.
This finally brings on another round of making out as I'm describing the
fantasy more and more, but we run out of communication ability as her English
and my Japanese ability are stretched to their limits, and the fantasy sort of
stalls.
LMR breaker 6: PORNO VIDEO!!! I can see I have something here with the sexual
talk, so I try one last thing before giving up. This is radical, reserved for
just such an occasion. I do another take away and ask if she wants to watch a
video.
At this point she is insisting that "we will have sex next time, so you
should just give up tonight,” which sounds like a good argument, but I know
from experience that it is better to seal the deal than be sorry later when she
bails before the next meet. So she is happy with my idea of watching a video
and asks what videos I have. Of course all I have are pornos! And since they
don't have uncensored porn in Japan except in Shinjuku, I pull out my
uncensored videos I got there and tell her this is her chance to see uncensored
stuff for the first time (I'm taking a risk here being so brash, just because
this is a last-ditch effort). She says it's going to be too much for her, too
hardcore. But she can’t help but watch it, just out of curiosity, like a moth
attracted to a light bulb.
I put on the video and it's really full on, closeup hardcore stuff (Japanese
video), which she finds pretty disturbing but cannot take her eyes off of it,
just out of shock. Finally she starts gushing about all the stuff they are
doing on the screen, and she just gets all jellylike and we start making out
with renewed passion, finally no resistance -- she is hopelessly horny now, and
we fuck straight out, some of the best sex I've ever had. She has a great body
and really soft pussy that seems to be meant for my cock! She continues to be a
great lay to this day, because she's always so darn horny!
Lesson learned: persist, persist, persist! But NOT with the same techniques -
keep trying different things until something works. I hope this report opened some people's
eyes to the vast array of tools out there for overcoming that
last-minute-resistance you tend to encounter right before sex. With this
toolkit and the ability to be passionate and flexible, maintaining momentum and
managing her mental state, LMR can pretty much always be overcome.
By the way, the total time from getting her back to my apartment to finally
getting the lay was less than 2 hours, just to give you an idea of how long I
spent with each LMR breaker. Most LMR will be overcome just by having enough
passion and kissing skill that she gets swept away by the momentum of the
moment, plus knowing how to escalate kino to the breasts, down to the ass and
pussy, and how and when to backup and push forward again. This is an atypical
example of mega-LMR as far as J-chicks go, but it taught me a lot, so I thought
others might get something from it, too.
Side
note: Some might question the morality of tempting a girl to do something when
she is trying not to give into that temptation. If you feel this is somewhat
shady, that's good because it means you’re not a ruffian who just wants to take
advantage of people, but careful consideration will reveal the truth of the
matter. You should seriously consider the moral issues here. I have, and I have
come to the conclusion that it is not wrong to place heavy temptation on a
girl. What she in the end decides is her own responsibility. You do not force
her to do anything she doesn’t want to do.
The
reason such situations come about is that the girl is looking for romance. She
wants sex, too, but she is afraid she won’t get any romance if she gives up the
sex too quickly. (If she doesn’t want sex and is not horny, her resistance is
*NOT* LMR; it is just plain no good and you have to go back a few steps and try
to build enough attraction to make her interested in you.) You might want just
sex or maybe you want to make her your girlfriend or even wife. In any of these
cases your goal is the same: to have good sex with her as soon as possible.
This is and always will be the surest path to make a girl fall in love with you
if that's what you want. (If you don't want her to fall in love don't give off
romantic vibes, just keep it passionate and sexual – kinda obvious really.)
However,
there is no moral issue with pursuing your agenda. Your job is to show how
great it can be just to enjoy good sex. Her job is to show you how great it can
be to be boyfriend and girlfriend. If you get sucked into her frame and end up
going out with her against your better judgment, no one can blame her. By the
same token, if she gets sucked into your sexual frame and ends up having wild
sex with you against her better judgment, no one can blame you. You goal is to
give her so much pleasure that she changes her mind about needing to be in a
relationship, because before she never knew sex alone could be THIS GOOD. So do
her well!!
There is
nothing wrong with pursuing matters in this fashion, but you need to get this
fact clear in your mind BEFORE you encounter this situation. You cannot have
even the slightest uncertainty about what you are doing and WHY you are doing
it and why it is a good thing to be doing and NOT EVIL. Otherwise you’ll lack
the intensity of purpose to follow through against heavy resistance and the
chick will see this and not follow your lead. She will not trust you if you
have these last minute moral qualms, and then you will get nowhere. Hopefully
this article has helped you think this through for yourself so you know where
you stand.
As
always, questions and comments are welcome and will be responded to. If you
have any issue with a particular girl or just in general, by all means post a
comment in reply to this article or send me a mail. With your permission I’ll
leave off your name if I choose to post your mail on the blog.
Happy
hunting!
Amanojack






03/01/2007, 22:46
Hey, I read your column and I dont know if its ok to ask a question but maybe you can heklp me.
I have been seeing a girl for a couple of weeks, and every time we get into bed, she gives me resistance, and nothing happebns. We sleep together, and I've got as far as touching her tits, but she doesn't let me go further. Its really confusing - do you have any advice?
05/01/2007, 00:37
Questions always welcome and encouraged...ask away!
It seems like you have a girl who "likes" you, but for some reason won't let things go further.
Girl will either have sex with you within the first two or three meets, or after 10-15+ meets (often not at all in that case). You obviously want to get the lay sooner than later, if only because all sorts of things could go wrong in the course of meeting and not fucking. Not least of which is you can get frustrated. Or some other guy can come along, fuck her in the first night, and then she decides she likes him more. Can you say, "Arggh!"?
It seems you've passed that two to three meets point already. Normally you want to do everything possible to ensure this doesn't happen. But it's too late in this case. If she is not that hot, just find another girl. If she you are really into her, you'll either have to hang on for the long haul or pull out some heavy seduction artillary.
I recommend the latter! Use the advantages you have:
1. She is comfortable with you (enough to sleep together)
2. You know she has some kind of hang-up about going further. You know what didn't work, so avoid doing the exact same things again.
I need to know more from you about why she would be giving you resistance despite being into you. Without more information I can only guess:
1) If you normally fuck girls quickly but she is a special case, then it means either she has an agenda (wants things to happen a certain way, like she wants to ensure she gets a relationship not just sex) OR she just has a hang-up about having sex or having it too soon (she's a virgin, she had a bad experience with having sex too early a guy before, she has a physical problem of some kind, she has religious beliefs that prevent this - is this girl Japanese??).
2) If you haven't had a lot of experience with chicks and/or don't normally have sex fast, it could just be that she got stalled out. It could be that she would've done it if you had been able to get her horny enough early enough. Shey may even hav some kind of hang-up, but if you can get her horny fast enough you can override it. Once she's had sex with you the first time, it should be smooth sailing after that.
Now assuming you want to try some crazy seduction stuff on her, you've got to have some skill in some kind of seduction technique. If you can do massage, that would be great. Giving her a great massage that "just feels so good" can create a brief window in which she just doesn't care that you're touching her ass, and then her pussy. Once you get to the pussy, that often clinches it. This will be so much harder than normal, though, because you already let a few meets go by without sex.
Anyway, it can be done. Give more more info and I can give you some advice that will work.
08/01/2007, 19:14
Very good stuff!! Most guys fail for lack of a plan. I developed a plan early on. And you've given me a tool for my box. Thanks.
Most of my succes has been through internet dating. It's great because when I tell(via email) a Japanese girl I'm American, she thinks, "He must be white." I never send pictures. It's interesting to see the look on their faces when they see I'm not white. My situation is a little challenging in Japan in that I'm black, not in the military, don't wear hip-hop clothes, have a business degree, use standard English, and wear a business suit. Not possible(nor would I be interested) for me to date the (typical)"Japanese girl that likes African-Americans".
So, I just can't just walk into a bar and pick-up so easily because I know what the Japanese girl's preference is. But on the internet the field is 100% level.
My strategy works most of the time. Planned from the station where we meet(which is near my home), the restaurant, and conversation. When she's in my room which is better than 60% of the time she's mine. What I've found is that when they've meet me I've shattered what their preconceived notions were and then... Well you know the rest ha hah ha
Again, great stuff!!!
09/01/2007, 00:57
Re: mitaboy
That is rad to hear! I use the internet a lot, too, and especially there it's important to have a plan that works like clockwork as you said.
"Most guys fail or lack of a plan" - that is totally true. the surious this is why don't they have a plan? I think the reason is that thye want to believe they don't need one.
Likely all their successes in the past came when they were just chillin' and having a good time, not thinking about all this tactical stuff. So they assume having a plan isn't helpful or would mess that vibe up.
In fact, as you and I know, the opposite is true. You can relax more because you know how it's going to go, you encounter the same situations over and over and you can experiment until you have a tool for every contingency.
A great example of this is how you figured out a way to work around many Japanese girls' hesitation to meet black guys. So many guys would just give up here, assuming that even if they could get the girl to meet without showing a picture she would flip out at the meeting place. You turned that into an ADVANTAGE with the fun of the surprise.
Fortunately there is a good selection of very fine women on the internet in Japan nowadays. So being limited to the internet isn't half bad. Still, there's gotta be a way to work something out for bar, street, and club pickups.
Japanese people see stereotypes first and foremost very strongly, and they just can't get past those on their own. You must take massive action to alter your image within the first 20 or so seconds.
Obviously stereotypes play a role anywhere, but in Japan it's like that times 100. I've noticed just changing my hairstyle slightly or changing my voice totally changed how people perceived me, totally altering my success rate for street pickup.
I'll be you could use that same element of surprise to your advantage in non-internet pickups, too.
Since stereotypes are so strong in Japan, people eitehr find themselves using them by playing them to a "T" or throwing in elements that seem totally contrary to them to create an intriguing gap between what they thought and what they are seeing.
I had a friend who was black but spoke with a perfect posh British accent and also dressed in suits - very dapper. For a Japanese person this created a huge gap in their impression, really making them want to find out more. But he wouldn't give away very much about himself, and hence he had a captive audience.
Breaking a stereotype has you going against the grain, which can cause weird things to happen (like girls suddenly running off), but also raises the excitement level
09/01/2007, 14:28
Hi Amanojack,
Ha hah ha, thought about changing that voice tactic, but damn I don't want to fall out of character. (^_^)
The internet and placing ads works for me, I can now say I've lost count, but I have to go through a lot of numbers. It's like sales you always have to be filling the hopper. My plan is down to even the clothes that I wear to appear a little "kawaii". ha hah ha
I'm intriqued by the street action, not so much by the clubs because I don't smoke and don't like it in my clothes. I do realize that I have to make more 'hits' just because of the preconceptions. Can't argue about the playing field the rules are as they are. Haven't figured getting past those 20 or so seconds....
May try the Ginza, 'cause I can wear a suit there and I know I do get the looks. Perhaps the suit softens the image of being 'black'.
Would be interesting to meet over drinks and talk sometime. Do you know the Crow Forest at Shimbashi station? I live in Minato-ku about ten minutes from the Tokyo Tower.
L8r!
09/01/2007, 16:36
I also notice a suit changes preconceptions a lot. Specifically it makes you look very legitimate, less scary, more established, clean, not poor, "majime", busy (=unavailable - a good thing), and somewhat authoritative. Plus Japanese chicks just like the look of a man in a suit.
If you're getting those looks, you know people are interested on some level. Getting those looks excites me to push through. However, now, as I mentioned in a previous post, I try to not look for those looks and just approach cold. This gives you the resistance you need to rev up your state into high gear where you'll be unstoppable for several hours.
Plenty of girls are afraid to talk to gaijin flat out, no matter what race. I do a fair amount of street work with my Japanese friend Kazu, and I find it puts the girls far more at ease when there is just one Japanese person there. Even though my Japanese is extremely high level after 8 years of hard study, the girls still often have general fears about communication and cultural differences.
Have you tried doing street work with Japanese guys or white guys? Even just being with a friend is somehow less scary to the girls than showing up alone. It proves that at least you have friends, and if you have a good dynamic going between you two, so much the better.
What's lacking in the group situation, at least at first, is that total control over the situation that allows you to learn formulaically.
Funny, I was just in Shimbashi yesterday because one of my regular chicks lives there. I live 15 minutes from there by train, and I'd love to get some drinks or whatever some time. Is that Crow Forest place a bar?
10/01/2007, 12:22
Crow Forest is a standing bar under the station.
We're close to one another. I live about 7 minutes from there be train.
I wish a had the time(maybe I should say inclination, there's always time for what one truly wants, ha hah ha) to study my ass off on the Japanese. I do realize that would be a plus.
Friends... I have some acquaintances, none that I hangout with. Most of the guys are work with are stylishly 'poor' and don't have the people skills.
And probably the best Japanese male friend I have is a Japanese executive who is a player(I llke hime a lot, we compare notes) but he is married with kids so his hangout time is extrememly limited.
Sure, let's get together when you have time you can email me at the address above, if it doesn't show I'll post it next time.
11/01/2007, 21:59
Your address isn't showing... go ahead and post it in code if you want. I'll decipher it.
12/01/2007, 00:38
here you go
mitaboy10
at mark
yahoo
dot
com
news flash
went to heartland tonight, just to get out. japanese guy approached me(me in a suit of course) and started a coversation. said he wanted to take me to a place with more girls. exchanged cards.
possible wingman...maybe