Getting girls is like a driving a car. There are some really cool enhancements you can get for better performance, many of which can be found in this blog. The problem is, most guys are attempting to drive the car with the emergency brake on.
Unaware of this, they come looking for new techniques that can "pimp their ride." They get fuel injection, engine upgrades, improved aerodynamic mods -- the works. After each enhancement, they notice the car is performing better and moving faster...
...But they never achieve the peak-level performance they could. Even with all the upgrades, their pickup vehicle still grinds quickly to a halt whenever they aren't gunning it. All the while they are doing a lot of damage to the vehicle itself. If only they would notice that the emergency brake was on, they'd be cruisin' free and easy.
In picking up girls, there is not just one emergency brake, but rather a whole host of little brakes that subtly hold guys back. Fix even one of these and you'll bolt forward in the game immediately.
1) Lack of sexual confidence
To truly succeed, you must believe in what you're doing. How can you justify rushing into sex unless you are 100% confident you can rock her world? Any improvement in sexual confidence will immediately shine through in all your interactions with women.
Release: Focus on pleasing the girls you have now - just because it's easier to get chicks in Japan, don't be a lazy-ass and neglect your girls. If you have no girls now, get a girl to practice on -- she doesn't have to be hot -- and learn to give her the time of her life. If you can rock a not-so-hot girl, you can rock a hot girl just as well.
2) Low self-esteem
This one will weaken you in every area of your life, including pickup. Everything you try simply won't work as well, and no pickup techniques can truly give you the lasting success you are after.
Release: The only way is to get your self-esteem up. Get busier working toward goals you want to achieve. If you have no job, get one. If you have a bad job, start taking definite steps to find a better one. Discipline yourself to do the things each day that you know hold the most value for you. Study things that are very worthwhile to you and gain new skills that will help you in the future. Endeavor to try new things that scare you -- like approaching women cold.
The more time you spend each day doing something you find truly valuable to your life, the higher your self-esteem will go, and the better you'll do with girls in all interactions.
3) Issues with women
Maybe you had a terrible relationship or two and have some emotional baggage left over. Maybe you even have some scars in relation to talking to or showing your feelings to women. Just about every guy has gone through some hard times with chicks, whether major or minor. As I said in #1, you must really believe in what you are doing in order to succeed. Any leftover anger toward or fear of women will necessarily affect your ability to pull. Or you might get a lot of girls, but not be able to truly respect and enjoy them. Plus the types of girls you can get will be limited to those who can't detect these issues because they have similar issues themselves.
Release: First, learn to forgive and forget. Every person you've ever interacted with was -- like you -- just trying to get along in the world the best way they know how. Holding grudges against girls or even against guys is purely counter-productive and will eventually destroy your game. Forgive and apologize to everyone, even if only in your own mind.
If you can't do that yet, you need to take two steps first: stop taking it personally and stop justifying your negative feelings to yourself. If you stop these two things, you actually won't be able to experience those feelings anymore.
If you can't even do that yet, there is one final solution for all past problems: simply refuse to blame anyone or anything for what happened (including yourself). Amazingly, if you refuse to blame anyone ever, it is impossible to feel negative emotions about anything. Failed pickup? Don't blame the girl or guy who got in the way. Don't blame Japanese society. Simply think about how you could work around it next time. Human negative feelings can only operate through placing blame on something, in essense by looking to the past. If you refuse to blame you will find yourself focused on the future, which is essential for this and any other endeavor.
4) Amateur mistakes and wrongheaded ideas
Society feeds us many ideas about women and male-female interaction that are totally wrong. In Japan and elsewhere many guys still believe that the best way to get a girl is to shyly confess your love for her straight out, or write her a love letter, spend tons of money on her, etc. Few people understand that the fastest way to love is through sex, and even if they are just after sex they don't understand what makes a women desire it and how the process works.
Release: Bits and pieces you read in this blog will gradually give you the understandings and attitude you need to avoid these mistakes and undo that social programming, if you keep an open mind. Many times I will just tell you straight out, "Do this!" or "Don't do this!" But the overall attitude in my posts and comments should give you a lot of hints as well. The attitude of any guy who is successful with the kinds of women you want can be taken as a better model than that of any guy who is not.
Always be working to bring up these four elements. They are the very core of your "inner game"--the internal psychological basis for all success in pickup and everything I ever speak about in this blog.
28/03/2007, 00:03
Aloha!
I meet this very cute a couple of weeks ago in Ropongi and we had a great time making out. I had to leave before anything else happened,but I got her e-mail and number. After that when I meet her again we didnt do anyting else than holding hand and tuching eachother (not only me but she took a lot of initiatiative) but no kissing or anyting more than that...
In her e-mails she is really positive on meeting up.
I dont really know now what to do to get her to a next step. It feels a bit as I have hit some kind of wall, I have a date with her on friday and I dont really know what to do to maker her take that extra step.
I also have to say that your blog has helped me alot I came arrived here in Tokyo just as you started it. A million thanks
28/03/2007, 02:21
Something that I feel is important you haven't covered, For thoese that don't live alone/ alwayls have other people in apartments, and like our privacy in sesions. How do you suggest we go about it?
A "let's go to a love hotel!" is a pretty bold statement, as people don't go to love hotels just to make out, and massaging a girl somewhere semi-private and then proclaiming "let's go to a love hotel" is still just almost as bold.
28/03/2007, 03:51
Hello.
You know, it's funny how my thoughts about picking girls up are EXACTLY the same with the things you publish here in the blog, even though I live in a very different country. I started about 6 months ago and after several spectacular failures understood a thing or two about women and the way the world works and came to the very same conclusions you've published in this post. Now I've changed my job and my hobbies, I learned quite a few useful social "non-pickup" skills and got an amazing girlfriend to learn everything there is to learn about sex. Right now I don't practice picking girls up at all, but I have a feeling I'm definitely progressing in the right direction. And I wonder - how long did it take you to go from zero to hero? You should also make a post about *not expecting immediate results*, which is a common mistake among rookies, and the one I made myself quite a few times.
Oh, and by the way, is there any chance to meet up with you for a chat once I'm in Tokyo?
28/03/2007, 05:51
I agree the starting from zero point is important, i've been reading your blog for a while and it made me think about a lot of things... I've been trying to change my frame of mind lately. But there is so much info on here that i don't know where to start... Tha confidence part is not a problem, only when it comes to approaching i'm very shy. When i know someone and get loose i'm good at chatting but talking to random women without experience seems doomed to fail. Maybe the storytelling bit is something that fits my style but again i don't know where to start... I also don't know if this stuff also works in other countries because i tried your e-mail etiquette on a girl that seemed really in to me but got no response.
Maybe the thing is also that i haven't had a girlfriend in a while so the more desperate you get the harder it is to get the ball rolling again it seems.
I guess my point is: if you're starting from scratch, what are the most important things to pay attention to in your opinion?
Cheers
28/03/2007, 09:28
Oh fuck, another blog for gaijin losers in Japan. You guys are fukcing laughable.
28/03/2007, 11:37
Crunk,
I agree. I showed this to my missus (who is from Tokyo but now living in Sydney) and all her Japanese friends and they had a good laugh. Needless to say, the Nevilles posting here are not in their league and would be hard-pressed to gain a response from girls with a bit of substance.
But funny stuff though, keep up the laughs you poor simple fools.
28/03/2007, 12:42
Appaled did you even read the blog? The people here are already not getting any. that's the point. Mating is a game
28/03/2007, 15:40
There is one flaw with advice 1 - if someone has been lonely for a long time (either always, or just had a long break from any successful relationship)and doesn't have a practice shooting range, so to speak, how can you work on 1?
And I would also like to hear about logistics in case of not living alone and having apartment to oneself, like commenter #2 mentioned? Girls seem to have (understandable) lack of trust towards guys pulling them to "rabu hoteru"...
28/03/2007, 16:00
Here something that I've seen a friend of mine do...
If you pull from somewhere and then are karaokeing late into the night, mention that you'd like to do more karaoke even though the place is closing. Most love hotels are equiped with karaoke machines, so mention that you could go to a love hotel to continue your 'karaoke taikai'.
You could also play up the other things that love hotel rooms have as a reason to go, massage chairs, video games, videos on a widescreen, a hot bath, etc.
On that particular night, my friend mentioned 'echi-echi nashi de' to the girl he had pulled. Basically, 'not going for sex', but for some other fun. How you deal with the situation from there is up to you. But, when you're in a love hotel, sitting close, with that much seclusion, it shouldn't be to much harder to take it to the next level.
29/03/2007, 03:37
Hey amanojack,
Just a quick questions for ya. I've been thinking about going to Japan within the next two years to study for a bit. I am certainly gonna try your tricks of the trade. But I noticed that you said you've got some skill in the Japanese language. How did you learn? Eight years of hard study? At a language school? A job? What do you recommend to someone who wants to stay in Japan and speak the language. Obviously speaking the language opens up uncountable possibilites.
Thanks.
29/03/2007, 22:29
i'm under the impression that we've some strange comments lately.. From homosexuality through to schooling and althought they are interesting I can't help but seem to think that some readers are missing the point.. Read boys..
What I unserstood is that this blog is about what i call 'The Game'and we all take pleasure in playing it so let's keep to topics of The Game.
Lexander
30/03/2007, 00:14
I have a question, what are some openers at clubs in Tokyo? That breaks the bitch shield..if I open with, whats your name/do you speak english/or just saying something in english, it doesnt seem to break through the shield..what do you reccomend for openers?
another question i have is, you always tell us to go for the same night lay, should we go out that night if we are 80% sure it wont happen because she says she has to work early tomorrow and she only has a few hours, while taking your advice on trying to go for the lay and that takes sticking around, for instance a few nights ago, i was on her territory(my mistake to start off with) and we were in a good conversation and i tried to make myself miss the last train, and i suggested going to a manga store to sleep and she said she had to go..my whole night was perfect until i got to that..
one more question..do jgirls like mysterious guys? what are some tips on being mysterious?what part of our lives should we hide so she will think about that?
thanks in advance
30/03/2007, 00:30
Re: Ron
Thanks! I'm glad I could be of help. Now as to your Q:
"I dont really know now what to do to get her to a next step. It feels a bit as I have hit some kind of wall, I have a date with her on friday and I dont really know what to do to maker her take that extra step."
You made out on the first day, but you didn't go all the way to sex on the second day, even though she was being proactive. Maybe you did your best, but if you were at all hesitant to pull the trigger in spite of her reciprocal touching it could easily have been interpreted by her as an insult. In either case, but not advancing on the second day you automatically landed in "the plateau." You may have to meet her many more times before you can overcome that wall, if ever. And even if you do it will be much harder to make things unfold on your terms.
Basically this a problem to solve for the next girl, but if you want to see where you can go with this one, you could either meet her about 8-10 more times going for the slower seduction, or meet her one or two more times trying some extreme tactics that will either blow you out completely or give you surprise success.
Sometimes these plateau situations are simply unavoidable. Circumstances foil your attempts to get her home, etc. Then no matter how persistent you are she won't let you go further, because a precedent has been set.
One thing to try to break this cycle is to be really aggressive a few times, then the next time do the opposite. Just be polite and look harmless. Invite her over for a massage, then when she is horny dial up the intensity again. Then you have a chance.
But overall it's best not to "throw good time after bad" -- unless of course you are really into her. If you are not stuck on her, it'd be much better to invest your time in new prospects and getting more practice. Try to avoid this happening no matter how hardcore or "risky" you have to be (for the reasons above, it is in a sense riskier NOT to be risky).
30/03/2007, 00:45
Re: Random Guy
My solution to not having a place of my own has always been to get a place of my own ASAP! This is about as pivotal as it gets. Besides, the cost of getting your own place would quickly pay for itself since you'd be saving money on love hotels.
However, if you are married or for some other reason can't do this, there are other options. I have my own place so have rarely used love hotels, but I can tell you how I'd deal with that situation if I somehow found myself in it.
1) Go to her place (only really works in Tokyo because most other places young girls live with their family).
2) Go to a very private booth restaurant like Daibutsu Korokoro in Shibuya, and go all the way in there, or get to fingering her and THEN walk her quickly to a hotel. If possible, of course, make her cum first.
3) Other places people are know to have sex - I can't recommend these on a public site like this, but common sex spots include cars, parks, net cafes, rooftops, and remote locations.
4) As others have suggested, get her to the love hotel on a pretense, like for karaoke or resting or..? If you have to deal with this situation a lot, you'll eventually find a way that works.
30/03/2007, 00:51
zonty,
Yes, I think the content of this particular post is totally universal.
When I started I had good sexual confidence and was an overall very positive guy. What I needed was the proper methods and an attitude adjustment. When I got those on the old alt.seduction.fast newsgroup 6 years ago I basically took off right away. When I came to Japan, though, it took me another two or three months to get up and running. Once weekend I suddenly laid three new girls in three nights, and never looked back.
By all means come along when you get into Tokyo. It's a fun city to live in.
30/03/2007, 01:06
Re: Robin
While this particular post applies to pickup everywhere in the world, most of my content is Japan-specific. The email things are especially so - I wouldn't use them in the USA, for example.
As to what to focus on first, that's what the above post is. Simply identify some huge mistakes and stop doing them. Then when you naturally come in contact with a girl you'll be much more likely to get intimate.
Eventually you'll have a girl to sharken your sexual skills on again, and then you're in a fine position to begin real practice in socializing.
In Japan in particular, assuming the above issues are handled, you can go to bars or clubs and just try interacting confidently and just "being normal." Play the innocent guy who is fresh off the boat.
Street pickup is advanced, but if you want to jump straight into it, start by simply saying "Hi" to peopel who walk by. Smile, hold steady and warm eye contact with them and see how far you can get the conversation to go. Once comfortable with that, try to get them to go somewhere with you right then, like to show them a magazine article in the convenience store next door. Whatever.
What I focus on as I approach is not the words I will use, but rather on keeping strong eye contact, staying positive, and not fidgeting or moving my face too much (not letting your eyebrows dance when you make eye contact). Also keeping your body language open. That's all. Of all things, eye contact is most powerful. Make sure you have very high quality, smoldering eye contact.
30/03/2007, 01:14
Re: Largo
Certainly if you have no girl to practice on it could be hard, but the point is you don't have to start out with a perfect girl. Like if you have no girls at all but then you meet one, don't toss her away just because she's not that hot. You can develop valuable skills with her, and she may have a really nice pussy, ass, or be highly sexual. If you are 32-yea-old virgin or something, understanding the principles in this blog will certainly help, but that's atough nut to crack. The best way may be to go on the internet. Some girls there are just desperate and lonely for any kind of company... :(
30/03/2007, 01:23
Xerexus,
Studying Japanese will make you more well-rounded in your pickup. You can get more different types of girls. But it is far from necessary. You can get scads of at least pretty-good quality girls only using English.
In fact, the cutest girl I ever got -- and my all-time favorite girl -- was one to whom I pretended to speak no Japanese, and she couldn't speak a word of English. Also, the most model-like objectively beatiful girl I even got was a fluent English-speaker (this is rare and fluky in Japan).
Pretending not to speak Japanese has figured prominently in many of my best lays.
Anyway, how to study Japanese:
Learn the fundamentals (pronunciation, grammar, etc.) before coming. Get them as solid as you have time for. When you come to Japan spend a lot of time in bars, drinking moderately, and chatting for hours with locals. Guaranteed good Japanese ability in three months, great ability within a year, and with continued study you'd be near native in a few years.
30/03/2007, 01:38
NampaNinja,
"I have a question, what are some openers at clubs in Tokyo? That breaks the bitch shield.."
Less likely a bitch shield than just being reserved and afraid of embarrassing interaction in English. Or certain clubs (ones with mostly Japanese people) are very close-knit with most people knowing each other, so you need social proof. If English isn't working, by all means use Japanese. Persist, and if they run away they run away. I find every club to be different, requiring different tactics, so I can't offer very specific advice unless you say a club I know of.
"you always tell us to go for the same night lay, should we go out that night if we are 80% sure it wont happen because she says she has to work early tomorrow and she only has a few hours"
A few hours is enough time to get a lay. Not ideal, but if that's all you have, you gotta try for an all-out blitz.
The deciding factor is this: what do you believe is the better choice for her -- to get enough sleep tonight or get great sex tonight and for the foreseeable future? If you don't see your own ability to pleasure her as being worth her getting 5 hours of sleep versus 8, that would be a problem. Or imagine if you beleived she would have the TIME OF HER LIFE if she got with you tonight. Then would it matter if she had to call in sick tomorrow? Of course not. If you don't believe it, she won't either.
"one more question..do jgirls like mysterious guys?"
Yes, they do. Don't reveal many facts about yourself. If you don't speak Japanese well, you have a big advantage here, because it will take her a long time to find out about you and she'll never really know if you understood each other. Basically, the simplest way to build mystery is to pretend not to speak good Japanese and speak very slowly. Use this as an excuse to a lot of touching, role-play, and meaningful eye contact.
30/03/2007, 01:55
Additional thought on love hotels:
Many of my first lays have been in karaoke booths. I know many of you are thinking, "How un-classy - surely that will leave a bad impression." This whole way of thinking, however, goes out the window once you've had sex. That's why sex is sometimes called "sealing the deal." NEXT TIME, you can invite her to a love hotel, and she'll be much more likely to come because you're already on sexual terms.
Just to make this totally transparent to everyone, I'd like to leave you all with a question:
I want you to imagine you had this beautiful princess girl, all dolled up, clean and impeccably neat with all expensive furs and white lace. You take her out and somehow in the course of the night you end up having wild sex in a dumpster out the back of a restaurant. Do you think she would be more likely to
a) Come to her senses right afterward and leave you for the lout you are?
b) Fall deeply in love with you?
Think hard.
30/03/2007, 11:11
My answer is c) Bitch and moan about the rotten fish stench she can't get out of the Luxaire.
30/03/2007, 11:36
This sums up girls attitudes to blokes, placing them in either friends or possible partner. pretty interesting.
30/03/2007, 11:37
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html
30/03/2007, 15:13
I didn't expect homophobia through silence. How can you be sexy when you can't understand being fabulous? Are you just another Ted Haggard from just another New Life Church? Please don't think of me as a Roman. I seek the truth.
30/03/2007, 15:55
I speak fluent Japanese, and it is interesting how you said you got laid without communicating at all..how do you know when to speak english or japanese?
what clubs have you had the best luck in finding normal girls?
and how do you open them?
and one more question on day game..how successful are you in it in tokyo..how many % stop to talk and how mny just just walk away cold..finally how many percent do you end up with email
30/03/2007, 20:40
Re: NampaNinja
When to use English vs. Japanese:
I generally use E when I feel the need to bring out some really big guns or I feel out of my depth socially or societally and I don't know what to do. Basically, people help you if you look innocent and helpless and are convincing about it.
If it works so well, why don't I always use it? Simply because I'm in this for the long haul and it's a bad habit to get into because it hinders your overall progress. So for fast results, using English-only is a nifty ace-in-the-hole strategy, but not so healthy in the long run. Also, approaching in English can scare people away... :(
Normal girls in clubs:
Club girls are club girls, but for normal girls I look for clubs that girls might just wander into out of curiosity. Heartland is an example. Even though it's full of gold-diggers and lower-quality girls, there are a few that just stumble in from Roppongi Hills. I live close so I can drop by for a quick look almost every night around 11pm. If nothing I leave immediately. But if there happens to be an anomalous hot girl there I head straight for her - often there are no guys on her either! Other than that strategy I don't generally recommend clubs if you're into the more normal kinds of girls. Velour in Aoyama also had some normal girls that just wandered in.
As for opening them, anything will do because no one is usually talking to them anyway - the guys are busy looking for ones that look easier or fit in better. You always want to approach the one who doesn't look like she belongs in the club.
Street pickup rates:
The areas of Tokyo differ greatly. Shibuya is the toughest to get a response, for example. But it also totally depends on who you approach (only gyaru? only the hottest chicks? only very young girls?), how you approach and with how muhc energy, how positive, etc. In my case, if I am in state just about 100% will allow me to engage them. If I'm not in state a good portion will walk away cold, though, especially if they are really hot, in a hurry, etc. Getting the email is also a pretty common thing. I could probably get 70% email close rates of any girl who stopped to talk, but that would clog my phone up with a lot of useless contacts, so I only get the email from girls who I felt a good chance of meeting again. Simply getting contact info is pretty meaningless.
I have a wing I go out with sometimes and we can open nearly anyone and get them to talk for a while - just something about the group dynamic makes it so. We can even generally get emails off most people. But going further is actually harder than when I'm on my own. So don't be deceived by a strong-looking front end. There are many things you can do in the beginning that will make the pickup go great in the opening stages while simultaneously sabotaging the closing stages. Going in too hyper or silly/gimmicky often has that effect. The real key is to go in basically normal, but be in state when you do it. Use the hyper/gimmicky stuff to get into state, then back off from it with the next girls you talk to.
01/04/2007, 10:57
Hey Amanojack, I'm a foreign girl in Japan who's been following this webpage with interest! Like most foreign girls I'm not so into Japanese guys, so I have problems meeting attractive men in Japan. I'm Asian though and I don't look SO different from Japanese people, although I am definitely a little chubbier. What can I do to improve MY game? Is it just the weight? Does my wardrobe need updating? I'd be interested in finding out your opinion. I live damn near to Roppongi Hills too...Nishi Azabu. I'll buy you a drink or a coffee if you can give me some constructive tips on how to improve.
01/04/2007, 13:21
Great post again, love your work.
01/04/2007, 16:32
hey I had a question about gaming a jgirl over e-mail.
I know I've gotten signs thats shes very interested in me because #1 she has a boyfriend
#2 that he doesn't know that we're talking and is hiding it from him.
I went as far as to say that I was gonna get a calling card and call her, and she said that she has to make sure that shes not with the BF when she answers.
So my question is: how should I game her? I won't be able to make a trip to jp for another 4 months atleast, but at the same time I know I can lay her when I get there, i just don't know how to approach the situation as of right now.
-Supremacy
01/04/2007, 20:06
>Maria
So you're saying you're not looking for Japanese guys?
What is WITH this? Coming from a straight, young, white guy I think Japanese guys are gorgeous and get too much disrespect.
I have a lot of Japanese guy friends, and it makes me mad when I hear foreigner girls in this country badmouth them.
What is it about these guys that is so unappealing?
01/04/2007, 20:59
Damn triangles:
Okay so i've been meeting up with an older woman often lately.. Her friends are my friends. Obviously I want to meet up with her friends as well.. How do I do this without the trouble of landing up in a triangle, where one hears about one I done with the other and it turns into a vicious circle?
3girls in total,, one's in the sack but the rest don't know it so the rest make themselves pretty available.. Maybe I should add 2 are late 20's and the one is 19.
Damn triangles messing up last nights plans.
01/04/2007, 22:19
>Lexi
If she is hot, just go for 19yo and keep the other two as friends.
01/04/2007, 22:28
>Supremacy
Stop calling her. You are pissing her off. She is obviously not ready to ditch her BF yet, and if you want in, you are going to have to make it as easy for her as possible to let you in, which means keeping yourself inconspicuous. If she gets too many suspicious phone calls from you when she is with her BF, one day she is going to tell you to piss the fuck off.
Get an e-mail address from her, and keep most of the talking to that. Give her YOUR number, and say she can call whenever she has the private time to talk.
Phone/e-mail game is almost equivalently useless in building attraction. You don't want to waste a lot of time on long distance communication aside from the purpose of reminding her once in a while that someday soon you will be within the proximity needed to stick your penis in her.
02/04/2007, 03:08
Re: Maria,
Since I am not a women, I can only give advice based on what I've observed in my experiences.
For a man, simply going for sex quickly allows him to choose where he wants the relationship to go from there. Conversely, for a woman giving up sex too quickly would relinquish much of your power in any subsequent relationship (or lack thereof). Hence your strategy should reflect your own goals: are you looking for a relationship, sex friend(s), or just one night stands?
If you want sex friends or one-night-stands, the obvious answer is to give out more signals, wear a form-fitting miniskirt and fuck-me boots, and be really smily and fun. But I don't know how much of this you'd be willing to do. As a woman, even assuming you were just after sex, presumably your goal is not just to get laid, but to do it without feeling like a slut.
If you are after a relationship, it's best to hold off sex for as long as you can without seriously frustrating the guy. However, foreign men are pretty impatient in Japan, because every day could be bringing new encounters.
The surest way to achieve any of these goals, though, would be to work on making yourself more attractive, both physically and otherwise. Rather than use a lot of techniques, a girl can get a lot of good stuff simply by looking pretty.
Physically:
-join a gym to lose that extra weight
-wear sexier fashions...can't go too far wrong with most general Japanese fashion magazines like CanCam, but look for fashions described as "モテ" in the mags (this means they are designed to be attractive to opposite sex)
-if you want a relationship very much, wear clothes described in the magazines as "愛される"
-hair and makeup are extremely important, so study, spend money, experiment, and ask for advice from people with great hair and makeup (again, Japanese women's mags have excellent advice, pics, and diagrams)
-smile more, because girls almost always look better when they smile
There are many other little and big things you can do to make yourself more attractive, not limited to appearance, but this is out of my field of expertise so I'll let others comment on this.
02/04/2007, 03:21
Re: Supremacy,
I agree with Anonymous.
1) If you get her really wanting to meet you now, she'll have to wait four months in that highly unstable state. Guys can do that, but girls can't. They are limited time only once their engine is revved. You need a smooth, gradual, light progression. Since she already is interested, I'd just be contacting her once a week with a brief little meaningless bit of fluff to keep her on board. Better yet, tell her you're going up to a log cabin where there's no internet for a few weeks so you can avoid the awkwardness.
2) Four months is a long time to be investing (and money WTF!?) in a girl who may not put out in the end due to various changes in circumstances in the intervening time.
02/04/2007, 03:25
Lexi,
Too many factors to consider: How important are these friends to you? How much do you like the older one? How much do you want to get with the others?
Any messing around within friendship groups entails some risk of it blowing up in your face. But it also entails the chance for word to get around and threesomes to happen, etc. Do you want to live dangerously or safely?
02/04/2007, 16:08
With your deep intense stare, the girls can see right into your brain. Like reversing a peep show. While you think it's all alluring, the girls are looking through a window at a foreign freak with his tounge and saliva hanging out the side of his mouth while frantically thrashing away on his member. Get some fucking pride.
02/04/2007, 17:26
Crunk, you are an amazing person, even though I have never seen you, I am certain your handsomeness is only outweighed by your staggering intellect. Please tell me how to be more like you.
02/04/2007, 17:47
Jo,
Basically advocating your suggestions, i have to tell, that in one of your fav. places (karasumori)
i got picked up by a gal, using nearly the same things on me!!! Not that i din't enjoy it, i was simply astonished. Oh, i love Tokyo!!
02/04/2007, 18:09
>Anonymous
Believe me, if I could only be into Japanese guys physically, I would! I really enjoy Japan - I've been here for 4 years, and I translate J/E for a living. But there are some things you just can't change, and physical attraction is one of them. I'd say about 97% of the guys I've kissed have been white. Aside from that I think that some Indian guys are attractive. But I've never, ever been sexually interested in a Japanese/Chinese/Southeast Asian guy. And that is why I am leaving this country!
>Amanojack
Thanks for the advice! Well, I'm working aggressively on the losing-weight part (and have had some success). Is makeup really that important to guys? I always thought it was superfluous. かっこいい男をゲットするように頑張っていきたいと思います。日本人の女の子に負けないために体を絞ります。
03/04/2007, 03:22
Maria,
Guys don't like it to look like you have makeup on, but they like when it is done well, whether they know it or not. Ever seen Koda Kumi with her makeup off? Not pretty.
I should've added that many guys are suckers for really sensual/sexual girls. If a guy believes you'll be great in bed, he will often make an exception in the looks department. How much of an expection really depends on the guy.