Situation:
It's the second or third meet after previously failing to get all the way to sex. If it's the third meet you are in "last resort" mode because if you can't seal the deal this time you're likely not to for the next 10 meets either. You need something high-powered to break out of the pattern of "no sex" that is being established.
Setup:
Meet her at your station or hers if she lives alone. Make sure she arrives first and is waiting for you (if you arrive first wait somewhere nearby but out of sight until she arrives). Either set the exact meeting location in a open area or lead her to a very nearby open area over the phone or celphone mail once she arrives. Don't give any special indication of your mood.
Execution:
There she is waiting in a open area. Run up to her excitedly with a huge smile and without hesitation immediately and smoothly pick her up in a "himesama-dakko" (her lying on her back supported by your two arms, like how the groom carries the bride over the threshold), spin her around a few times, maybe toss her up in the air and catch her (if you can do this safely), then put her back down on her feet. Go for the personality of a "play monster" like you might act when entertaining your little sister. I even growl or guffaw slightly when I do it. Slip into an alter ego for a few seconds.
She will flip out quite a bit (especially if she is conscious about her weight), and may immediately tell you to put her down. Comply after a moment. Tickling her while holding her is optional/risky: it will let you carry her longer and make it easier for you later, but about 1 in 5 Japanese girls are highly adverse to tickling or aren't ticklish at all.
Effects:
- Shows your masculine physical strength in the most visceral way possible, affecting her on a primal level (horniness and basic attraction instinct).
- Momentarily takes away her control; sweeps her off her feet (literally). This is an act of pure male dominance that will again affect her on a primal level long after she is back on the ground.
- Spinning her around and throwing her up in the air affects her once again at the primal level, invoking brief fear/excitement and forcing her to rely on you totally for support and protection.
- Throws her off balance mentally, making her tend to seek your lead from then on.
- Reminds her of being a little girl; reverts her to back to childhood.
- Automatically advances touching/physical escalation quite far.
- Sets an ideal tone for things to come: you are in control, she cannot resist, you are set on a fast physical track toward sex.
- Many Japanese girls have a fantasy about being picked up this way by their man, but very few Japanese guys do it.
- Accomplishes ALL OF THIS in a few seconds!
Continuation:
Once you set her down, act as if nothing happened - go back to being completely normal. You have successfully set up a "split personality," a playful, rule-breaking "alter ego" that you can then utilize at will for the rest of the night. It will come in extremely handy at key points later on to break out of the "no sex" patterns of interaction that have been established in prior meets. It also keeps her very off-balance and gives you the initiative in the overall interaction.
Check back later for how to continue through to the end with lightning speed. You'll essentially be up against massive last-minute resistance every step of the way.
In response to many who were asking, I'm currently working on an E-book that will teach a wide variety of closing techniques and ensure you maximum efficiency in getting all the way to sex in the shortest possible time. More details as the work progresses.
You can always contact me at amanojacktokyo [at] yahoo.com for private comments or questions.
05/04/2007, 15:00
An Amanojack Technique(TM). I roving it! I love to physically pick up and toss around J-girls and they almost always enjoy it too. It totally turns them on. (Especially from me, since I'm only 173 cm. and look pretty thin.)
I did this just last night with a girl at my place who was pretty resistant, but just scooped her up and she was happy as a happy baby.
And interestingly I find that the taller girls (over 165 cm.) like it even more than the small ones. Maybe because most J-guys can't handle it. But I never thought of separating it as an alter-ego. That's a great idea. I'm really keen on delving into and field testing your end-game topics.
05/04/2007, 19:08
Heh, now that's one thing that I have used unconsciously and I didn't ever realised it had so much impact on what followed.
Basically, I'm a very tall man, used to be quite strong, too, am not now for some or other reason.
Nevertheless, when I'd take a girl out, I usually try that we go and see some tourist spot, castle, wall etc. And in any sort of similar place I'd pick her up and put on the wall (so that she has a better view), or help her get down in a similar fashion - practically carrying her. It usually would add a momentum to our interaction.
Touching, escalation and implanting some idea as to my physical strength - but up until now I haven't ever consciously realised why such a great technique.
Thanks, Amanojack.
05/04/2007, 22:14
And on a side note - if you're writing a book, maybe you could add some 'seduction vocabulary' (or a separate post)?
I happened to drop to some other sites, the best of which (so far) is SocialHitchHiker's Charisma Tips, but I get lost in all of these SOIs, IOIs, AFCs and all that slang. I tried to google it, but not much comes out. Maybe you could help, as your vocab sometimes also contains some of those?
Out of curiosity, did you ever frequent these sites?
06/04/2007, 00:39
a technique i use when having sex called 'rocking the cradle'. you are facing each other and you reach down and pick her up, the back of her knees resting in the 'cradles' of your elbows. your hands cup her buttocks. she wraps her arms around your neck.
06/04/2007, 06:40
It's true. I once had a boyfriend who was incompatible with me intellectually, but was nearly 1.5 feet taller than me and could literally pick me up and spin me over his head like a helicopter propeller. Best feeling ever.
06/04/2007, 08:33
Koto Oshu
If you go to fastseduction,com there is a dictionary for all of that:)
06/04/2007, 20:33
@R :
And I've missed it? Heck...
Thanks for the update, appreciate it.
06/04/2007, 23:27
A.J.,
I do not have any trouble with picking up "normal" or club type girls, but to be honest they are not really my thing. I am much more into Indie/Punk type girls, but find them much harder to approach. The best place to find them is at a gig, but they are there for the music and not to be picked up and can be rather cold to those who try. If it were a bar or dance club I would just keep on it, but in this situation I don't want to harsh anyone's vibe or be THAT guy. Even outside of concerts I find them (at least the attractive ones) to be much less interested in foreigners in general and downright opposed to street pickup.
Quick background on me: I am a decent looking guy, dress cool enough to get by, play guitar in a band (currently not playing shows, or this might be a lot easier), and I guess if you had to rate my Japanese it would be around 2kyuu level. I understand and agree with most of the stuff you have here, but find it doesn't apply to subculture girls as much.
Any suggestions?
07/04/2007, 14:47
Check it out.
http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/
08/04/2007, 04:31
You're a bit pathetic. This idea of wanting to show off your 'pure male dominance' is ridiculous, believe it or not most women do not want to be dominated and treated like a piece of meat. The fact that you feel like you need to manipulate someone into sex rather than just waiting till you both want it is concerning. You need to have some more respect for women.
08/04/2007, 05:43
TD - Yeah, the alter-ego thing lets you get away with a lot of things that she would otherwise feel obligated to object to. Otherwise if you keep it up too long she's like, "What?!" The detailed analysis will have to wait until I have a bit more free time...
Koto Oshu - Just randomly using this kind of stuff all by itself can be quite effective, but when you use it in a systematic and coordinated way it can be even more effective. More on that soon!
Mitaboy - That sounds like a fun position to try. I'll give it a whirl tonight with my primary.
Maria - It seems almost everyone likes this. Most people simply never get the chance to do it at all, even with people close to them.
maitta - I find that the rock/punk girls, or any girls who like foreign music, generally will give you some kind of "in". Getting girls at events like that is something I have little experience with, but if you're on the street they ought to have a different attitude. Dressing the part helps. A guy I know dresses fairly punk, rides a skateboard, and gets in pretty easy with those types of girls in malls, on the street, etc. He gives off this counterculture air. I find any types of girls that are deeply into music to be easy to put into trances...it's just that at the events the music is more powerful as a state-maker than you are. If you are keen on doing the events, go get 'em after it's over.
Marianna - From my experience and talking with women directly, I believe most women do want to be dominated to an extent (or have the illusion of being dominated), but nothing on here has anything to do with treating women "like a piece of meat." If this constitutes treating her like a piece of meat, then fathers all over the world are treating their kid daughters like pieces of meat when they pick them up ans whirl them around. Makes no sense.
Also, the only manipulation that is happening with these techniques is manipulation of the social frame. No person is being manipulated at all. All that is happening is the girl is being made to feel turned on and attracted, and the man is making sure that happens in a way that is socially acceptable for her.
Rather than waiting for some attraction and horniness to magically appear in the girl, it's much more effective to CREATE that attraction and horniness. This is entirely win-win for the guy and the girl. Women want to be seduced. Women want to be turned on. Men, of course, like to be able to choose which girls they want to be with rather than leaving it up to fate.
08/04/2007, 10:35
Odd, my last comment got deleted. Anyway, what I like about this blog is that AJ is not advocating lying to the girl. In fact, he encourages you to be more honest and upfront about who you are and what you can be. The only real deception he advocates is don't lean of Japanese if you know it well and make up a good story that involves a sexually situation if you don't have a real one.
We've got 3 million years of evolution on our side to get girls to have sex. That goes against decades of cultures and a few years being raised in that culture. AJ is giving pointers to get advantage with the evolutionary drive for sex.
This caveman technique is just another evolutionary response. Fear of falling, disorientation, pleasure of being held, reminder of the father figure (probably the last man to hold them up), Alpha-male respect and admoration, etc. It goes against the Japanese culture of not showing emotion in sober public. The carnival whirl wins out.
10/04/2007, 02:41
Obviously you read my comments, because you changed your incorrect title from "Breaks" to "Brakes". Bravo. But I guess you didn't like my other comments. Maybe they hit too close to home. Anyway, like I said, despite finding this all vaguely morally repugnant, please keep it up. The "zero to hero" gaijin phenomenon needs documenting. I mean, we've all met guys like this- who couldn't get laid in their home country, but go to Asia and suddenly bask in the glory, and have privately snickered at these pathetic people, but it's good to have an online record of this. It's frankly hilarious how much time you spend thinking about all of this.
I would say though, if you're too scared to hear people's comments and allow them to respond to your writings, (and that's what they are)then don't have a public blog or a comments page.... If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. After all, you can press delete all you want, but myself and the rest of the English-speaking world will continue to quietly snicker away. Whether they see you in Shibuya "in-action" or just read about you on your blog.
10/04/2007, 09:02
Great stuff again. Keep it up.
10/04/2007, 16:42
bb,
I appreciate the civilized comment and spelling correction. The only reason I (or more often, the YourJapan admin) delete any comments is because they dilute the on-topic content, get other commenters riled, and end up degenerating useful discussions into silly flame wars. I'm replying to this comment and not deleting it because so far I think there is value in the ensuing discussion for my readers.
In point of fact, the "objectively" hottest girl I ever got was a white girl in my hometown a few days before my first trip to Japan. I say "objectively" because I happen to like many Japanese girls more than her, but she had guys all over her and was the quintessintial "bombshell"-type that Western guys tend to go gaga over.
Can I prove this? Can you disprove this? Of course neither of us can prove any of these claims either way.
Fortunately, there is no need for me to prove this, nor do I have any desire to. The simple fact, which will be proven to guys who seriously try it, is that what I write will massively improve most guys' chances of getting hotter women into bed, as well as in getting into relationships with hotter women. Most of what I write is equally true in the West as in Japan, but since I am in Japan I naturally focus on aspects unique to Japan.
As always, people may attack my character or anything about ME, but in the end this blog is not about me; it is about the understandings, techniques, and information I provide. Who am I? Just a nameless, faceless, anonymous Internet dude. Why believe what I say? Why believe I get many hot girls on both sides of the Pacific? DON'T! My words will come to you if and when you need them, and then their ring of truth will be self-evident based on your past interactions with the opposite sex, or else they will be proven to you when you actually try them out with an open mind.
...and if you find they don't work, THEN feel free to post about it - I would yet appreciate this because it would help everyone refine their abilities.
10/04/2007, 18:28
Jack, I think you should debunk the "zero to hero in Japan" myth too.
As a smart, sociable, healthy, handsome, fashionable guy with a nice job in my home country, I didn't really have many problems with girls.
I never even bothered to read these kinds of sites until AFTER I got to Japan.
After moving to Japan I am suddenly unable to communicate with people, I am removed from my social circles and friends, and my employment status is downgraded. It felt more like "hero to zero" to me, and "zero" is exactly what a lot of people will need to start from when transplanting themselves to a new culture.
The good looking girls in Japan, just like other first world societies, generally only date within their established networks, and don't want anything to do with outsiders.
Maybe for some guys, the typical "internationally aware" girl (stocky, no fashion, no makeup, bad haircut, pudgy) that likes to date foreigners will be a step up for them. But I think for a lot of guys here, it isn't, and they will have to work hard to start dating the kinds girls that they used to in their home country.
10/04/2007, 19:14
i can attest to the visual quality of what amanojack pulls.
been there, seen it, believe it!
i have know idea of their family backgrounds, but from a visual perspective, i'd walk down the street with them and the japanese boys would be jealous.
11/04/2007, 07:21
Hey Jack,
I just wanted to point out, to you and the naysayers here as well, that there's a long article in the New York Times today about scientific research on sexual desire that is right in line with a lot of what you are saying here. For example:
"A plethora of new findings, however, suggest that the experience of desire may be less a forerunner to sex than an afterthought, the cognitive overlay that the brain gives to the sensation of already having been aroused by some sort of physical or subliminal stimulus ― a brush on the back of the neck, say, or the sight of a ripe apple, or wearing a hard hat on a construction site and being surrounded by other men in similar haberdashery."
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/04/10/science/10desi.html
Keep up the good work!
12/04/2007, 05:40
Interesting responses to this post. I think this is where we see the clash between what people want to believe chicks are attracted to and what they are ACTUALLY attracted to.
Of course this works on intelligent girls; how is the caveman approach any less intellectual than sex itself?
12/04/2007, 07:36
This DOES work, all the time for me. When I was first getting into japanese girls, I would act silly because I was always guaranteed a smile, laugh, validation. But that just took me down the friend road.
I acted silly because I was nervous but got used to being around j chicks more. I started to do things like give a hug when I saw one I knew but pick them up as well. I made sure that they knew their space was my space. It worked both ways. They would touch ME more. Do you know how hard it is for a japanese girl to even attempt to touch a guy, to hold their hand, put their arm around you? Its worse than a TOEFL test!
Love the posts AJ, breaking down those social barriers is the only way.
12/04/2007, 23:30
"how is the caveman approach any less intellectual than sex itself?"
Maybe because we're not all animals. And yes, we evolved from them, but we left the caves millions of years ago, and maybe your technique needs more sophistication too.
Hard to see how picking up a girl and roaring like a he-beast is any special insightful technique. Most girls will think this ridiculous and, frankly, I can't say I've ever seen a guy in the US or in Japan do that to a woman. (for good reason)
More importantly, I don't think there is such a thing as hard and fast rules for these interactions. And anyone who says otherwise is just like those TV hucksters who try to sell you 12-step programs to be millionaires. Don't trust it.
Thanks to Amanojack for allowing this debate to continue however.
13/04/2007, 08:19
OK, now this discussion I can get into.
We have certainly evolved past the totally animal stage. In particular, we've developed a cerebral cortex that filters out the urges of the more primal parts of our brain.
However, the primal "animal" parts of our brain still exist, and sex is essentially an animal act. We're not really sitting there pontificating and intellectualizing during the act.
Generally people do interact on an intellectual level during courtship and mating rituals, such as dinner dates where people talk about their accomplishments at work or engage in flirtatious verbal fisticuffs like we see on TV. The style I mention here is certainly not normal, and I would even agree that on some level it is ridiculous that it works...yet it works all the same.
One reason it works is precisely because it circumvents the filtering of the cerebral cortex, with its societal rules and logic, and gets down to the primal areas of the brain that control our basic drives.
Humor does the same thing - it essentially throws the rational mind for a loop and lets a few things leak into and out of the primal brain uncensored. Humor is socially acceptable and has a long history as a tool in guys' arsenal for getting into bed with women.
What I propose in this post is less socially acceptable, and that is why it is most often reserved as a last-resort tactic. I am quite sure girls find it ridiculous on some level, but the only thing that matters is whether it works. Once you've had sex with a girl, it doesn't matter much if she thinks you did something ridiculous and silly beforehand. (See http://amanojack.yourjapan.jp/post/22/224)
As to hard-and-fast rules for male-female interactions, this post in particular is not setting down rules itself. It's just describing something that produces favorable results so often that it is worth noting.
There are some rules that are useful, but they are not hard-and-fast. They are rather guidelines to keep in mind, or rules of thumb. For instance, if a girl is giving you all the signs that she wants to be kissed, the rule for that is: kiss her now! 99% of the time that rule will serve you well, but in, say, 1% of cases that rule should be ignored because of other situational considerations.
(Note: Whenever I say to do something or that something is a rule, it is never meant in absolute terms. It's simply the writing style instructional literature uses. For example, in The Elements of Style (the classic guidebook for writing), Strunk says, "USE SMALL WORDS." It doesn't mean a smaller word is always automatically better than a bigger one.)
13/04/2007, 15:32
Yeah, but the percentage of chicks who get turned on by being smacked in the head is probably a lot lower than those that get turned on by getting the old princess hug, as it's called in Japanese - himasama-dakko.
In fact, the latest issue of CanCam or one of those women's mags in Japan had a survey where they asked, "What one thing do you most want your man to do?" Guess what made the top five.
13/04/2007, 16:29
Crunk, you lack the debate style of even a 5th grader. Amano posts one technique amoung many, that involves the male and a KNOWN female acquitance that you've had at least one or two dates. It's no more than coming up behind your date, covering her eyes and whispering "guess who" in her ears.
YOU then throw a non-sequiter about sado-masachism enjoyment by some females should be practiced on all female strangers you meet. Granted, by your articulation in the post, this may have went over your head.
If you wish to discuss the dismerits of the suggestion in this post, provide a relevant counter example. Have you never displayed your various strengths to a female companion? Have you never suprised her? Have you never made her laugh? Have you never touched her, talked to her in a smooth voice, played on her vanity? Perhaps I should start by asking have you actually been with enough women to offer advice either for or against what AJ is offering.
AJ, great point about the human animal. We are still animals, we just have the ability to act counter to instinct in most cases. It's that social conditioning we just have to override from time to time also.
14/04/2007, 16:49
Had a good look over the advice and thought it was quite funny but also quite feasible. My only reservation that you'd have be a complete diddle to actually do most of this stuff. I'd rather be myself and find a girl who likes me for it. The whole stud thing is passe IMO. I also disagree that foreigners don't get hot girls in Japan, but it's dependent on many factors, particularly being well adjusted socially, which many foreigners are not. That being said, Japan is a diverse country with quite different communication methods. Signals are very important here. I suggest reading 'Empire of Signs' by Roland Barthes.
15/04/2007, 14:13
good post. ignore the trolls
20/04/2007, 09:52
I agree with Urk. If you don't like the posts, leave. Nobody's forcing you to come here. And don't call the blog "lame," it's not an old sheep dog.
21/04/2007, 14:55
Rob,
You should probably read the post called "Harvesting vs. Seduction".
22/04/2007, 00:28
Hi Jack,
Thanks for the idea. I spent last night going to dinner and clubs with a girl. She was giving very good signals and we were touching often. I kissed her when the right time came at the end of the night, but she resisted. I know she wanted to kiss me back. She would press herself to me and then pull back, saying "I'm not an easy girl, I don't want to kiss on the first night." Classic last-minute resistance. I'm seeing her again tomorrow and I'll pick her up in my arms as soon as we meet. Before reading this blog I probably would have backed off immediately, thinking that I was respecting her wishes by letting her have the initiative as to when we would get to sex. Now I know that it's my job to make it easy and comfortable for her to get into bed with me, rather than letting things become complicated and unpleasant.
Thanks again for all of your articles. I'm a handsome guy that shouldn't need this advice, but I was raised in the Disney mentality of relationships. Now I know that most girls say one thing and want another.
22/04/2007, 10:59
Hey LMR (in case you come back to read this). Just letting you know I'm here for the exact same reasons. I'm already very popular with girls (in America), but because of that I've never actually gone after a girl. Every girl I've been with so far is a girl that came after me, but they just don't do that in Japan even if they're crazy about you. Now that I know better thinking back, I can think of a couple girls that were basically throwing themselves at me Japanese-style; I was just too shy/oblivious to do anything about it. So, like you, I'm here to learn to lead things in the right direction socially when the attraction is already there.
22/04/2007, 18:49
Hey guys,
Sorry for the lack of posts - I've been busy moving house and working on an e-book. Much more coming soon!
23/04/2007, 02:32
Hi Jack,
i have a question: do you use indirect or direct openers? It seems the stuff that works best for me is situational but there are many different opinions out there on the best openers...
Bye
23/04/2007, 03:37
re: Okami
Thanks for the reply. It's nice to see I'm not the only one.
I really can't believe the nay-sayers on here. Why are you even reading the blog if you're just going to shit on it? Are you jealous?
Besides, I can't see what's pathetic about taking pointers. Have you never asked a friend for advice?
There are no "sneaky tricks" here. In fact, I find this style of approaching women is very honest. At least they know exactly what you're on about. I'd much rather be bold than to try playing the "close friend" angle, like so many guys do (when actually they're thinking of sex), then try to turn it into a sexual relationship. Now THAT is trickery.
Like Jack said, this site only has pointers for getting intimate with girls. Whether you just want sex or you want to marry her is another matter entirely, and up to you (and her).
23/04/2007, 12:40
Why is it that some people get simply _infuriated_ at the notion that other people are--OMG!!--having sex!!!
?
23/04/2007, 22:17
My point exactly and if the conent in this blog now is so horrible. Why does the same person keep on comnig back to read it...?
Its not that I search blogs about contents that I find untinteresting and keep on checking them over and over:)
Tried the Lifting girls tec this friday and the girls really appriciated it, so word up to the sensei.
Looking forward to the new stuff and the book (with or whitout the sexy pics :) )
24/04/2007, 01:29
Hey everyone, I went to a hostess bar the other night and I was just gaming the hell out of her and I can feel that she was feeling that. I'm way different from all of the salaryman that come to her who has no came and she appreciated that obviously and we talked about many things. My friend took me out for a celebration by the way, I didn't pay. She offered her email/phone number to me last night, any ideas how to meet her up? treat her like another girl?
and after 3 am when we got out of the hostess bar me and my friends were walking down the empty street of ueno on a sunday nigth and a bunch of russian hostess come up to us and we start talking and we all get drinks. There was a pretty attractive hostess that I was gaming too and we traded numbers as well, I've never really worked with hostesses, especiall a gaijin one too, any idea how to game these girls? thanks in advance guys
25/04/2007, 23:28
If you are posting comments on each blog post and posting 5+ times talking shit about how bad his posts are.... It seems like stalking/harassing to me. You seem to be the loser in Japan and get your kicks from bashing a guy that/claims to seduce women. I think your jealous but I may be wrong. I used to have guys like you who trolled on my search engine optimization blog until I got rid of comments period. You are ruining the point of Amano having comments open. There will always be guys like you who are jealous and talk smack online but are to cowardly to say anything offline. For your info, I am not in Japan, so don't try to put me in your "gaijin loser" category.
Try to get a life. Your "internet thug" persona isn't working. I can almost bet you work for JET and spend your nights alone eating noodles and reading Manga
Congrats
26/04/2007, 00:08
To everyone who is talking shit-
Instead of wasting our time and your time why don't you do something that you enjoy. Yeah, you might enjoy talking shit but is it really improving your life? No. Life is too short to be wasting it on talking shit behind the computer screen because you don't have the balls to do it in front of someone. Quit wasting your energy on hate and focus it on something that helps people and more importantly on something you enjoy. Just let us be us. I know for a fact that the haters of this site are not successful. I'm done with this post, and I know you are too, and lets all move on with our lives with the correct direction.