After 6 years in this lifestyle, it's not often that I come up with a highly effective new method that I'll actually use myself. But this summer I found just such a technique:
The sexual state phone call.
The idea of sexual state has been around for as long as men have been horny, and has been formulated as a seduction tool by Gunwitch and others in the seduction community. I've created an expanded interpretation of sexual state, partially outlined here.
The main difficulty with using sexual state is most guys can't turn it on like a switch. They'll flow into and out of states in random and haphazard ways, with results to match. And when they are in great sexual state, they might well be home in their pajamas and in no condition to go out and utilize it.
When every thought of hot women makes you boil over with lust, there is another option. You can just pick up the phone and start dialing.
Dial one of your regulars up first to warm up the voice. Try to persuade her to do something unusual for you by talking in super-sexual tone and never letting up no matter what she says. Stretch all the syllables out in as deep and soothing a voice as you can manage. Let your sexual state show through all the while. Of course always stay positive and confident, which means no verbalizing this directly either.
Once you get to calling random girls you've been trying to get to meet you, they'll object in all kinds of ways. They'll try to talk about something else and you'll continue with the super-sensual voice. They may ask what's up with the voice. They may ask if you are horny, or if you are "tired" or whatever they can think of. Ignore it all. Simply don't respond to anything that isn't related to what you want.
And what do you want? Her at your house, now! Let yourself go crazy with the voice, little by little escalating it. Basically you are doing the sexual state pickup, but on the phone. And why on earth not?! Men pay $4.95/minute for 1-900 numbers where women of unknown appearance will talk dirty to them, and men are much less stimulated by voice than women are. You can get a girl very hot and bothered over the phone, even if you've never met, or even if she wrote you off as a lamer in the past. Suddenly you're this guy, up in her ear giving her these hot feelings.
You can really pull some coups with this. By that I mean, if you've been doing pickup for a while you know that girls tend to fall by the wayside if you can't get them to meet you within a few weeks after picking them up. These girls are very hard to turn around, because the pattern is so set. They are "always" busy, even if you invite them out every week for a year. It's rare to get a turn-around out of one of these girls. But this phone technique can do that.
You might dial up some random girl that has nearly forgotten about you. She may be asleep and in a daze because your call woke her. She may be watching TV with her cat. She may be sitting around being lazy. In any of those cases, when the very first words you say are painted with that luscious, optimistic, gentle-yet-powerful sexual voice, she will within a matter of 20-30 seconds have her own state begin to alter. Within a few minutes she could be as horny as you, and you could be wrestling with her to comply with your demand that she come here right this instant.
Wrestling with a girl is right where you want to be. This is a good thing. If it's really totally out of the question, she won't SAY so, she will just refuse to participate in the escalation at all. That's why you start with regular conversation - in a deeply sexual tone - and wait for some indicator that the feeling is seeping into her. She might just soften up a bit. If she was asleep she may do this nearly instantly, since her mental state is highly fluid upon waking and she has trouble judging fantasy from reality. Once she gives any indicator, you can ramp it up with more sexual tone, demand things, say you want to see her, and optionally go into a story or something to build her horniness by making her imagine things.
Always remember to be constantly imagining what you want to happen (her there with you, naked and doing whatever it is you most want). Use whatever imagery works for you as representing the ideal result, whether that be your cock in her mouth, your two naked bodies sliding against each other, her face writhing with pleasure, you making out with her, etc.
Demand her to come now. Most of the time she will simply be unable to comply, but you want to push the boundaries. But take note that you do not even acknowledge her frame. If she has work, don't to tell her to skip. Definitely don't argue why she should skip. Just keep telling her to come and that you want to see her right now. If she's sleeping, don't tell her why she doesn't need the sleep, just keep pushing on the hot button of what you want, keep tempting her with your voice, until you get her going as far as possible. If she even thinks for a second about skipping work to see you, you've accomplished something major. Next time you call, you can build on that.
I find with these sexual state phone calls I can get girls to come from remote locations in Japan just to see me. They just eventually crack that way, after 3-4 calls like that.
Do, of course, end the call first and on a high note (common sense), provided you can't get her to come right away. Try to get her to comply to something. Get her to agree to come meet you. Then get her to agree to a day or timeframe when she will come.
The great thing here is that instead of the flaking dynamic with which more people familiar - where the more you try to get her to meet, the more things stale out - with this method the more you try to get her to meet the more things heat up.
I'd also recommend not discussing actual sexual stuff, because it will take too long from that time to the time you meet and the immediate lust will have worn off by then and she'll often feel boxed in for having seemingly promised sexual stuff would happen, but not at that moment being horny (as she's on her way there). That is a very uncomfortable position for her to be in, as I think any woman would tell you, and she will not want to comply with anything at that point.
Just let it be that she is coming to meet you, and that is that. The rest is implied only with your tone of voice.
Try it out on a girl you aren't that into and see what happens. Even if you have to pretend, remember that acting is just a way to steal the frame from yourself. That practice will help you maintain the frame when talking to her and getting her to comply with your demands to come over.
Using this only a few times (calling multiple girls each time in series), I've gotten at least 12 girls I thought were long-gone to commit to meeting me (many living very far away), and so far 3 of these have led to lays that I had ppreviously written off as slim-to-none chance of success. Give it a try!






21/09/2007, 17:57
Yay! Comments are on! This really doesn't have much of anything to do with this topic but I need to ask. I am living out in the semi country side in Hikone in Shiga-ken. There aren't really any clubs and I am new to this whole PU scene so I don't have enough confidence for street work yet--besides they are mostly high schoolers. I am about 50 minutes out of Kyoto.
So, what I need is your advice. I don't really have a place of my own. I am in a dorm with two small bedrooms and a shared kitchen. My room mate is cool with what ever I do but I don't know about her. Also the pool of girls in Hikone is kinda small but if I go to Kyoto I really don't have a place to bring them back to. What do you suggest?
22/09/2007, 08:38
Interesting read!
How long this calls of yours usually last? Is there any other type of talk from you in there, like promising something good etc? I guess there is a limit on how many times you can ask her during one call before it becomes too repetitive...?
22/09/2007, 11:20
Great post and great blog. So much useful information and insight into the female psyche its unbelievable. Keep up the fantastic work Amano Jack!
22/09/2007, 14:41
Ixtlian,
Living situation is the very first thing to sort out. Even if your roommate is fine with you bringing chicks over, it could be a big obstacle for the girls who come. You gotta clear the runway before you can hope to land any planes on it!
Part of logistical ninjutsu, as I call it, is to take whatever situation you are in and turn it to advantage. If you really can't move or work something out where roommate is not there when you show up with a girl, develop some way of broaching the idea with the girls you bring. You could even use it to quell girls' anxiety to come to your place, saying you have a female roommate. This presents a much safer image. Of course once you're there the roommate may step outside for a bit and you can proceed (train her to say she needs to go to the bathroom/dinner/etc. and then end up not coming back for a long while).
In the countryside, the simplest option for the beginner is bars. Start with the bar where the other gaijin in town go, then branch out. You can just drop into any old bar and it can be fun. And of course there is street once you get up the nerve to do it. No matter how small the town, it's hardly relevant if you are truly approaching every hot girl or every lone hot girl you see.
Kyoto - at only 50 minutes away - is also a fine option. The first lay can be had in karaoke, net cafe, private booth restaurant, park at night, car, girl's house, or love hotel. Her house (if lives alone) and karaoke are the easiest and most common. After one lay, you have a lot more leeway to deal with the shady logistics of getting back to Hikone and dealing with the living arrangements.
22/09/2007, 14:56
Sundaeh,
The calls generally last from 5 to 20 minutes. I don't usually promise them anything, except maybe to part half their bullet train fair if they have to come from afar.
I'm very repetitive once I'm fully fired up. I'm not asking, just demanding and making statements. 会いたーーいぃ・・・来てぇぇ! (I wanna see you...come!) That kind of thing, peppered with elaboration on that. I also throw in something attractive about her (a so-called "qualification"). Something not looks-related. Like I'll say she is やさしい (nice, gentle) or something, and if the call is longer I will go into it more. If it's long you can let it slip into a story or something, too, or combine it with qualification by reflecting on the time when you picked her up.
Keep coming back to the demands often, and also keep coming back to things she reacts well to. She will think you a little odd, but overwhelmingly she will associate talking to you with getting lost in a sensuous realm of illogic. Oh yeah, did I mention not to be logical? Logic is bad here. You don't want to try and reason with you, you just want to talk to her animal brain directly. Illogic is a bonus because it short-circuits the logical brain's filtering as well.
AXLE,
Thanks, man. I appreciate the comment and am glad you're getting something out of my project.
22/09/2007, 23:26
I liked your analysis. One thing I wonder is I get in good state when I am drunk and can socialize well. Do you think it would be good to call girls while I'm a little drunk and in a good mood?
22/09/2007, 23:40
Kaino,
Thanks! Calling while drunk can help you maintain your frame and speak more smoothly if in Japanese, but probably not when you're obviously drunk.
As an aside, if you want to keep the slightly drunken perspective while you are sober, just make a mental note of how you feel when you are drunk and then try to climb back into that feeling when you are sober. Anchors may be able to help with this, but I've never tried them myself.
23/09/2007, 17:00
Yeah after going to Kyoto for the weekend I notice that average quality of the girl is just so much higher. Are you familiar with any good clubs with karaoke near by?
24/09/2007, 09:16
Brilliant post!
1. I'm assuming many girls don't pick up when the phone rings - especially HOT girls. What is your strategy for voice mail / answering machines? How many times or how often would you leave messages?
2. How often do you call a girl? What time of day and day of the week is best?
24/09/2007, 17:47
Ixtlian,
I've never been to Kyoto myself, but I'd guess that anywhere busy enough to have clubs would also have karaoke in close proximity. Karaoke is a subject for a whole new post in itself, but the main thing is to find a place with good privacy.
RelaxAndFlow,
Thanks! To your questions...
0. I'd just like to re-emphasize that the main point, the true thrust of this technique, is the quality and intensity of the sexual state itself. It's really pretty off the hook, not like anything she'll have ever heard before. Not necessarily cool like in the movies, just something that grows into unapologetically lusty.
1. Normally with standard phone calling, her not picking up the phone can be a problem because it can lead to a chasing dynamic. Leaving messages is one way, and if you do that you'd best be prepared to leave a good one - I'm no expert there so I'll leave that to the reader. Many girls also do not have answering machine service. So what I do first is use my judgment about her personality and lifestyle.
For example, if she works a 9-5 job I can up the chances that she'll answer by calling her around 11 or 12pm. If she works a night job, you might have a better chance around 5 or 6am, or in the afternoon.
If I know she has a tolerant personality, I can call her and wake her in the middle of the night (this is risky but can work wonders as a last resort - please don't overuse!).
If she is polite and mature about herself, or the kind that likes to have things scheduled, I might mail her that I have something to talk to her on the phone about. It could even ostensibly be about something she showed interest in before. I'll ask when is a good time to call. Then during the call I let in the sexual state voice little by little as we talk about the proposed subject for a bit and then let it slip into the main agenda of making her feel like I'm burning up to see her right now.
But most significantly, it doesn't matter all that much if the chasing dynamic forms, because if the sexual state in the phone call is burning hot enough it just doesn't seem to matter anymore (see #0). So long as it doesn't get past the tipping point where she simply decides to ignore you forever. In that case you can always try from a different number, but that's not exactly where you want to be - try to avoid that by being prudent, not calling twice in a row, etc.
The main etiquette rule in Japan seems to be that if you call you should either leave a message or an email if she doesn't pick up. The cautious thing to do is to have an email all typed up and ready to send, then call. That way if you can't or don't want to leave a message, you can send that mail right away and she doesn't spend any time wondering what's going on.
2. I might only call once a week or even much less often (keeping in mind that these are girls that have eluded attempts at a second meet for a while now). So far, as long as she is still responding to email in some way (if even to say she's too busy) I haven't had all that much trouble reaching girls by phone. If I do, I'll revert to a different method or feel her out by mail for when she has a free moment to answer if I think phone is the only way.
Naturally you don't want to call on a Friday or Saturday night, especially if she works 9-5. 11-12PM on a weeknight is good, but I've found even calling during work can be fine. If she answers, it can be kind of a special thrill to get those feelings while she is at her desk and feeling bored. A little bit of lust injected into her mundane work environment makes it stand out all the more. If she doesn't answer, she may call back once she gets off work. A good number of Japanese girls, even many of the hottest ones (OK, maybe not as many young kogals), have a sense of manners and will call or write you back if they miss your call. Of course some will assume you'd have left a message or will call back if it's important, but then again we aren't trying to win them all here, just a slight percentage would constitute a major upset.
This is not meant to be used on every girl necessarily, but certain girls lend themselves particularly well to it, as per the above conditions. I find it works well on polite women, because they have the manners; scheduling women because they will answer as long as it's scheduled; and it can work on ADD young chicks as well because it's very much in the here and now for them and they tend to act impulsively on their current emotions (which you are strongly swaying) - with them it becomes even more important to get them over right away.
25/09/2007, 08:00
Ok I don't think this is the proper place to put this but here goes. I have never been really with girls before. All my life I have been a national level member of the crew team which means getting up at 5 AM or earlier every day. Needless to say with that reschedule, I never had any girls. I am a social person but don't have any experience in the PU scene. Now that I am in Japan and not training any more, I want to make up for lost time. :)
I am actually at the same study abroad program as Ixtlian (He actually directed me here...) in the middle of Shiga. There are a lot of local bars and the locals are nice and having been teaching me some kansai ben but generally, as my favorite bar's menu aptly describes with on of their dishes, they are sausage fests. The girls who do come in are either friends who came with me or one to two Japanese girls a NIGHT.
I also took your advice with Starbucks and went there to study. There is a lot of traffic of hot women but about 75% of them went with their boyfriends. It was really kinda strange. I met a really nice girl but I was unable to close because non of us have keitai yet. City hall is being painfully slow with our gaijin registration so we can't purchase them yet. I'll go again today and scope it out. How is asking if some grammar construct is correct for an opener.
Yeah so I need help .
25/09/2007, 09:30
NanpaNewbie,
Crew team? You must be buff - J-girls will love it! Don't show it off, just let them notice naturally (wearing clothes that show it off is fine).
Anyway, the bars are no good so far and Starbucks was mostly couples? Unusual in my experience...I'd try going at different times and different days of the week. If you like working cafes there are plenty of others. In the countryside, though, eventually you want to get good at street hunting. There are always girls out on the street, in stores, on trains, etc.
A question about Japanese is fine. You can do this on the street as well. I remember one time I was reading an email that had a kanji I didn't know, so I asked a passerby (very hot girl) what it was, she told me, I thanked her, and I continued on my way. A minute later she caught up to me and asked me if I had a few minutes to talk, because she was interested in learning English. And I wasn't going around asking everyone I saw. She was the only person I talked to that day. Indicates pretty good odds!
You guys'll need celphones ASAP, but in the meantime you can just write down girls' info with pen and paper, telling them you'll contact them when you get your phone.
See my next post for info about the main types of approaches, as this is important to know for countryside where there are no clubs and not many bars so you need more daytime skill.
Oh yeah, one more thing is to know when festivals and other events are. Those are goldmines for hotness.
25/09/2007, 16:17
I know about the Keitai! My gaijin registration is planned to be done on friday and I plan on taking Juice's advice and shelling out for the best one. What color would you go with? I read Juice rocks a hot pink one.
I headed back to Starbucks today. For a while there were only two women there who were not very attractive and were with other guys. Finally two girls, one of them was very hot. I went up and asked what a kanji was, they giggle and explained but it felt super awkward so I just said thanks and went back to my work.
As for me, I am not that buff. I am in the best shape in the world but regardless of what I do I still have a bit of a beer belly. Its genetic I think as both sides of the family have it despite being healthy eaters.
26/09/2007, 02:15
Hey there. It's owesome man! I have a question. Do you have any plans for Halloween? (I'm hoping you can write about this in the next post) Which club in Roppongi is the best? costumes and the stuffs....? This event might be great oppotunity to get some hot chicks.
27/09/2007, 02:23
Wow, great article again dude! I like how you speak level-headedly about this stuff rather than being all sensationalist like others are. Every single sentence you write always proves accurate in any interactions I've had in Japan and even in my home country.
More posts please!
27/09/2007, 02:26
Yeah, like, where are the posts?! Where's the book? Write a book, man! I'll be the first in line. Are you listening? Write book - anything on your mind about this stuff - and I will buy it rather than waiting for the blog posts.
27/09/2007, 02:29
Hi AJ, I have a request. Could you go over the basic style of approaches that you use? I.e., how long do you talk before getting the number if not going to the insta-sex?
27/09/2007, 04:11
I second Paizuri Man's comment. Your audience precedes you, Mr. Amanojack.
27/09/2007, 04:12
joe- you oughta check out FLOWER in roppongi for halloween. tons of gyaru if you like 'em
27/09/2007, 04:15
Yay! The blog is back!!!
27/09/2007, 04:29
Hey, quick question - I've just moved to Japan and would like to know how to set up my room for best chances of success. Any tips from anyone would be helpful. Thx
27/09/2007, 17:00
Where'd all the funny commenters come from? Did you post this to Reddit or something? Anyway I just wanted to say I use something like this myself. I started in junior high and it's worked well since then. You're right that it's much like phone sex, exept you're offering a sample for free to make them interested in getting the real thing...keep tempting them and eventually they cave in to temptation. Sweet!
27/09/2007, 19:57
OK, I have one question for you, Amanojack. How DID you figure all this stuff out? What books did you read, or did you just learn through trial and error? I was doing pretty well back in the states but Japan has been one long dry spell for me. Not anything like it was in the Bubble years, pity... :(