The World's Shortest Pickup Method
Someone asked me, if I could only give a newbie ONE brief maxim on how to be successful with women, what would it be? After some thought I replied:
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"The better you sexually satisfy women, the better women you'll be able to sexually satisfy."
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It's like how in business the more money you make, the better your new opportunities to make money become.
This is an iron law, applicable to all cases. Even take a below-average woman and pour your heart and soul into sexually satisfying her. The rule still applies, which means you'll automatically - by iron law - improve your ability to get more desirable women.
So the shortest set of instructions on how a newbie can be successful with women is:
1) Get a girl - any girl - and go crazy sexually satisfying her
2) Use the additional sexual confidence to get better girls and satisfy them more.
3) Repeat step 2 infinitely.
Your sexual confidence will fuel your effort, which will drive your results, which will further spur your sexual confidence to meet and seduce more women - automatically. It's a virtuous cycle. The wealth of experience you gain in the process of interacting with so many women will teach you the lessons you need to know to succeed more. This is one self-perpetuating loop, forged of self-discipline and driven by love for women, that you can always rely on to push you upward rapidly as long as you stay focused. Any questions?
(The Foundations series will be continuing fairly soon.)
29/12/2007, 18:25
lolz @ at all these comments. you guys are too much. do the guy some favour and offer him some real feedback. amanojack, i am not done with our pleasant debate. I will be back.
29/12/2007, 20:38
Brilliant post. I recently started living exactly what you described. It's a beautiful thing.
Thanks!
05/01/2008, 17:05
[Silly comments deleted]
iconoclast - cool, I'll be happy to continue the discussion whenever.
Newbie - Glad it's working out for you! (I had to delete your other post since I deleted the spam comments you were replying to.)
The same troll keeps coming back with different aliases even after half a year. Interesting habits he has. Please do not attack him as he probably doesn't need any additional negativity in his life, and his comments will be deleted periodically anyway.
05/01/2008, 19:11
Hi Guys,
As I was going through this website and I think most of what is written here applies primarily for western guys, maybe because J-girls have a good impression of western gaijins. I was wondering if there are any tips and methods that would specifically help an Asian guy to approach and land cute J-girls? My understanding is that Asian guys don't fare too well in the mindsets of J-girls, partly because of the inherent negativity that they have of Asian guys. Anyone have any ideas on how to resolve such issues? Care to share experiences, tips, etc.? Thanks a lot!
06/01/2008, 19:57
Hi Amanojack
Thanks for all of your information. I have a question regarding this topic. I'm in a serious, committed relationship with a j-girl, but there's a small sex issue, and I could use some advice.
Excuse me for being graphic, but I think it will help to clarify the issue.
When we're going at it, she's very into it. We'll be making out, and going down on each other. However, once we move onto to actual intercourse, she complains of pain, so we stop there. Well, not exactly, but intercourse-wise, we stop.
I'm pretty sure she's not making this up, and really, if it's gonna hurt, I don't want to be hurting her. We should both be enjoying this.
Some info on me - I am not packing like some kind of porn star, I'm just a regular dude. Also, I'm not the most experienced at sexually stimulating someone (neither is she). And to be honest, my sexual confidence has taken a huge nose-dive into the gutter of late.
I've spent a considerable amount of time going down, and she's definitely excited. But it's quite possible that I'm doing it wrong.
My opinion is that her issue is both mental and physical, but I'm just guessing (she's never been abused). Conversely, the issue is that I need to improve my technique.
In any case - other than that our relationship is great, so I'm not looking to move on to someone else. However, the current sexual situation is quite frustrating. And I'm willing to take any steps to improve it.
I'd be grateful to you for any assistance you could give me.
Thanks in advance
Mr. Onigiri
06/01/2008, 22:01
Roguey - From all I've seen, Asian guys generally get slightly fewer women but of higher average quality. Learning to speak Japanese will net you a lot more benefit than it will for a non-Asian guy. A good angle is to be the guy who is by appearances like a normal Japanese guy, but has that foreign element.
The misconception is that white guys get a lot of action in Japan. Well, actually they often do, but it's mostly from the girls who are after foreigners. There are very few truly hot in that category, although they do exist. To get the other girls it takes more work and skills to alleviate their fear.
Japanese people seem not to want overload. They are content to sit on the edge, dipping their toes in the water. That's what it's like for them to be with a guy who looks basically like a Japanese guy and maybe even talks and dresses like one, but is different on the inside. With a white or black guy it's like an overload, and so mainly junkies will apply.
For any non-Asian guy reading this, it just means that you'll have to either take a lot of average girls, or eschew them and go for hotter ones. Or you can do both.
I've tried many of both, but if you take my top 20 girls of all time, only two of them could put together an English sentence except maybe on paper.
Mr. Onigiri -
The two most common causes of sexual pain with J-girls are
1) Lack of lubrication. This can happen even if she's excited, as some girls have sexual blocks, some are severely dehydrated, the room can be dry, or you can drink all her juices away while eating her out. Some girls will always be sopping wet. Anyway, that's the first thing to consider, and it's easy to test. Just lubricate more, or make sure she's very wet when you enter her. Also, after she complains of pain, examine her vaginal opening - especially the lower part of it - to see if there is any splitting, redness blood, irritation, etc. there. Most often that part will split a little if you're bigger than any guy she's had before, and if you look closely you can see that and it will heal in a week or so.
2) Almost equally as often, you can be going in to deep and hitting her cervix or a otherwise just pummeling her too hard inside. That's also easy to diagnose and fix. Just try never fully inserting and see if that helps. Also, go slower and more carefully. Enjoy every small motion.
Sometimes certain positions can be painful, like doggie style, because of where your penis hits her inside.
One other possibility is a latex allergy, which will cause undo inflammation in the vaginal opening. Try condoms made of polyurethane instead of latex and see if that helps. .003 and .002 are examples, although you'll probably want the large size as they aren't as flexible as latex.
Perhaps most importantly, however, is the psychological aspect. She may not have been abused, but she may have had some not-too-stellar sexual experiences. Keep it light, and do things gradually. Remember that you don't have to insert if you don't want to. You can satisfy a woman wonderfully with only your fingers and mouth, or just with kissing her mouth, neck, ears and back. It's all about psychology. Just think if you could make her cum without even involving her sexual organs. Would you have your confidence back then?
07/01/2008, 08:56
Thanks Amanojack
Just a follow up - do you find this to be a common occurrence? Also, we've used lube previously, but I'll try to make sure we're using enough of it.
Just out of curiosity - do you think that some girls loose their sexual appetite over time? Is that why you tend to continue to find new women?
I'm also pleased to find that after only 1 post that my alias has been hijacked. In tribute to Tranny I'll also equip myself with a D+G g-string and run around the room to see if this also fixes the problem. Not sure why I didn't think of that earlier.
Thanks for your time
Mr. Onigiri
15/01/2008, 17:11
Mr. Onigiri,
A degree of pain in intercourse seems pretty common for inexperienced women. When it's not a problem it can also be because the girl is feeling so much pleasure that it just doesn't matter to her, or she desires to please you so much that he is happy to put up with it. Just like how a man might put up with a very sore forearm while stimulating a woman's G spot. And if she is feeling pain it should mean her tissues are being restructured and some days later she will heal and not hurt at all. But for most virgins they will have to experience major pain at least once, usually two or three times. If they are too sheepish or not excited enough to push past it all at once/twice/thrice, it could get distributed out over 10-20 sessions of mini-pain. It could even heal back to where it was originally if the process is too too gradual. Bottom line is that if she is super turned on it will stop mattering.
It's not good to rely on lubrication, because it covers up underlying issues and can't be used in all situations, but when you do use it - as a temporary measure - be sure to use plenty of it if there is any pain. A little doesn't necessarily work. If possible, warm it before using.
Girls' sexual appetites don't seem to wane with age, at least into their 30s. Some young girls can be more reserved and inexperienced, and for those reasons may not enjoy it as much or allow themselves to. In my experience, as long as I am sexing them well, they are discovering how GOOD sex can be. It's natural for them to get addicted to it, and they do.
The general pattern is for women to want it more and more, and men to want it less and less - with the same partner. That's partly biological.
The reason I myself keep meeting new women is that there is rarely a woman who can keep my interest very strong after three months. When there is, I keep seeing her, but also see others concurrently.
I never actually stop seeing any girl flat-out unless there is some special reason to, such as that she is looking hard for a boyfriend or there is something about the relationship that I find unhealthy or don't enjoy. It's more dependent on me than on them. If I'm having a good run where I am feeling great about how positively I'm affecting all the girls I meet, then - by the iron law above - I'll soon rack up so many girls on the roster that I won't have time to see them all. I'll still see the lower priority ones every few months. I even have girls I see once a year or less. I of course prioritize my favorite women. My goal is always to have their sexual appetite grow exponentially while they are with me, even if for the benefit of the next guy if I decide to stop seeing her.
The fact that your girl's sexual appetite is not seeming to grow is not a natural thing. If this is a serious issue, you should stop intercourse altogether and just work on pleasing her through kissing, etc. And just be being a more attractive male for her and turning her on more, however you see fit to do that. You could ask her if she has any fantasies, but while certainly a good idea it's not the first thing I would try. Here is what you want to shoot for for amazing sex (with a girl you have already had sex with at least once) -
Turn her on as much as possible through your words, voice, face and manner. Only after you've maxed out that avenue should you go to making out. And only after you've gone to the limit of making out should you get into sexual touching. Keep the makeout going the whole time. Only when you've maxed out her pleasure and your best effort there should you go on to actual intercourse.
Master each step along the way. Don't go to the next step until you achieve a major increase in arousal at the step you're on. If you aren't getting enough of a response from her at the step you're on, try harder, try different things, and if it wears on too long like that take a break and try again another time. Always leave her wanting more, even if you had great sex. You want to maximize the amount of time she is hoping for more and minimize the amount of time she is worrying about what will happen next. End it on a high note.
If you get to the point where you can make her go wild with just your fingers or mouth, or just with kissing, or just with your voice, then you can definitely advance to the next stage and she should be nearly begging you to.
This may seem like an odd way to go about things, and much of the detail is left for you to fill in, but if you do it this way I can all but guarantee it will soon be much better than before.