This one will be shorter as I have little time to write today. This concerns the "lack of grudges and other emotional baggage" listed at the base (the most important part) of the pyramid.

Following along with the Psychology of Achievement**, on the second CD (Accepting Reponsibility and Taking Charge), Tracy discusses "releasing your brakes" which I have covered before. I again recommend this series in the strongest possible terms. There is literally no one who would not benefit tremendously from listening to it, even those that have already done so. It's simply the best overall life success program ever conceived, and has stood the test of time.

The CD and my previous posts cover this "releasing your brakes" stuff pretty well, but I want to emphasize that this is not any kind of "optional" thing that "might" help you. It unequivocally will help you, and in fact it is essential for this stuff to work as a whole.

Specifically, your life will suck if you somehow learn how to get with many fine women but it exposes all kinds of internal sicknesses in you, and success is very unlikely to happen anyway under those conditions.

You want to rid yourself of these encumbrances first to make a clear launching pad.

Here we are talking about the most common UNSEEN issues that guys who are trying to learn pickup walk around with for years without ever knowing what's really holding them back.

And let's get one thing straight: YOU CANNOT FORCE YOUR WAY INTO SUCCESS. You cannot simply ignore underlying issues, like holding grudges against women or men, or blaming others for your failures so far. The issues will not go away. They WILL come back to bite you. The "fake it 'til you make it" idea just doesn't stretch that far.

Even if you manage to meet with some kind of success, it will not cover over these negativity issues for long, and you'll find yourself either retrogressing or going down an even darker path. Look at Mystery - there is a man who's underlying issues were never solved, yet he reached success in terms of women, money, and fame. In the sense that I'm talking about now, he "forced" his way to "success." But would I trade places with him? Not a chance. He's not HAPPY, which is the point of all of this in the first place. He fucks models, but has severe clininal depression and all sorts of mental issues that I don't even want to imagine how they impinge on his sexual and romantic relations. That's not success in my book.

I am all about building success from the ground up.

Real confidence, real sincerity, real understanding of women, real ability to connect at a deep level without encumbrance...THEN can come the really effective techniques.

More and more I realize it's not the techniques as much as the foundation that have made me successful. Building from the ground up is the fastest and surest way to success with women. That's something you won't hear from most, but it's the truth. It really doesn't take long for most guys anyway. 3-6 months is all most guys need to make order-of-magnitude improvements. If you have deep-rooted issues it could take longer, but nowhere near the 2-3 years "pickup community" guys seem to typically take. And you'll be a lot happier when you get there, and able to handle all types of relationship situations and make deep and rewarding connections with great women. Yes, you can have it all. The marketing hucksters are the ones who try to break the lessons into watered-down, packaged units so you're always left needing more product, always seemingly one step away from success, for years...and years...

**IMPORTANT NOTE: Those interested in the Psychology of Achievement should get or download the 6-CD set, NOT the shorter 2-hour version. And don't worry about the touchy-feely stuff as it can be safely ignored - separate the wheat from the chaff on your own.